Are you a dreamer? Whether it’s about love, money, or health it’s very likely you have some vibrant visions of what you would like your life to be like. Maybe you want to learn how to make the perfect plum pudding, travel to Egypt and meditate inside the pyramids, hike the grand canyon rim to rim, meet your soul mate or reignite your stale relationship. The truth is whatever your mind conjures up can come true – yeah baby!!! But at the same time there are more things than ever competing for your attention and distracting you from your dreamscape.
In my coaching practice I’ve found that every woman encounters distractions on the way to realizing her dreams. What separates those clients who succeed from those who don’t is whether or not they are able to get back on track with their goal focus. Since it’s inevitable you’ll be thrown a few curveballs the most important factor is how you handle the setbacks. Do you let the distraction take you down the rabbit hole or do you regroup, refocus and re-embark on the road to success?
While many situations steal our attention, I’ve found a pattern with the 3 biggest dream destroyers. These main three MUST be overcome if you want to experience the fabulous life you crave.
Here are the 3 Biggest Dream Destroyers
Can I do this?
Self-doubt can be the culprit when your determination and motivation begin to wane. We all have negative thoughts that creep up at times – the question is do you believe those thoughts and do you allow them to limit your potential? Buying into the false beliefs that are kidnapping your mind can cause you to abandon your goals and feel like there is no point in trying. Yet the truth is we become successful by taking action, despite our fears. Confidence and motivation come from action – so get moving! Carpe Diem!
Am I good enough?
Do you compare yourself to other people you see as more successful?
We are all different yet we have a tendency to compare ourselves to others. It’s human nature, and while learning from others is an important part of our growth, if it is used to reinforce an unrealistic or negative self-image it can be an unhealthy habit to get into.
Mark Twain said that “comparison is the death of joy”. Science agrees with research showing that comparing breeds feelings of envy, low self-confidence, and depression.
If comparison is how you judge your worth you will always be losing. It’s impossible to reach a point where you are better than others in every way. Part of what makes life fabulous and interesting is enjoying and learning from the talents of others. Instead of trying to be as good as or better than others, focus your energy on being the very best version of yourself.
Next time you catch yourself using someone else as a benchmark for your own worth stop and remind yourself how this strategy is ineffective. Instead, compassionately redirect your energy and attention to the achievement of your own goals.
An uncomfortable truth…Most people’s problems are self-created and would simply dissolve if they came from a place of response rather than reaction.
Since TV and movies were introduced we began to think it was normal to have loads of drama in our lives. We’ve been lead to believe that’s normal, acceptable and just the natural way things tend to be. But you know what? It’s not.
Drama can be quite seductive but it’s a bottomless pit and the only way out is to turn the titanic around and head towards the good. Do something delightful for someone else, live to give, focus on what’s good rather than what’s constantly wrong, bad or stinks. It’ll change your life and lead you one step closer to your dreams
So there you have it, the 3 biggest dream destroyers and ways you can avoid these pitfalls to keep your focus where it belongs: on creating your most magnificent life.
Here’s to staying on track on the path to your dreams. You CAN do it!! I believe in you!