Sometimes in order to get everything you have to let go

sunset Sherris Dec NewsletterDear Sparkle sensation, have you ever noticed that sometimes you have to be willing to let go in order to receive your heart’s desire?

Today, I want to tell you the story of one of my incredible clients (we’ll call her Deb for the sake of this article) who transformed her life with the power of “letting go.”

Deb was a successful businesswoman whose husband had an affair. When I met her, she was estranged from her soon-to-be-ex; she explained she had been the one to take care of everything in her marriage, she was the glue in her relationship, and when it fell apart, she had a hard time understanding what had gone wrong and wasn’t sure what to do or where to go.

It was clear Deb had been there for everyone but herself and had buried her passions and lost herself in the process. So focused on her husband and family she couldn’t even remember the last time she tapped into even one of her inner joys. She was leaning so heavily into her masculine “doing” energy her soft feminine side had been eclipsed. Her balance was totally off-kilter and she was suffering the consequences

So, together, Deb and I created a list of things that she used to love to do. She had a blast remembering all the activities that made her feel ALIVE and brought her to life, and pretty soon she was involved in singing groups, camping with friends, quilting circles and feeling enamored with her life!

Deb was so happy because she was taking care of herself.

I gave Deb little assignments, like being willing to accept help when it was offered (basically getting her out of the typical competent woman’s response, “Thanks, but I got it” – can you relate?). After she let the bagger at the grocery store help her to her car one day, Deb said, “It felt so good to allow a man to do something for me!” This began a huge shift for Deb.

Can you guess what happened once Deb was willing to let go of controlling every single aspect of her life?

Not only did her estranged husband come back because he wanted to be around her happy vivacious energy, but she got her life back. Crawling out of her controlling self opened up a world of fun and light heartedness.

Whether or not she chose to take her husband back almost doesn’t even matter because most importantly, she was able to reconnect with who she truly is: a magnificent, joyful and feminine woman.

The same is possible for you, sister, and I’d love to show you how. Click HERE to set up a time to chat and I’ll walk you through the steps.


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