Letting go is premier to love. If you hang on tight to the things that drive you crazy you’ll never allow love into your mind. There’s no room for it. A mind full of trash gets more trash. And you want love, yes?
Now you might be saying, wait a minute, isn’t love specific to the heart? True that’s where we FEEL love, but it starts with the thoughts we are focusing on in the mind. Our feelings are determined by what we put our attention on – we think something, then we feel.
Think about it– someone says or does something that is unkind, disrespectful or even crosses a boundary – and you think wait a minute, what did I do to deserve that? What happens next? Most of us put our attention on what was said or done, attach a meaning to it, take it personally and then feel upset. Totally taking it personally our body starts to fill up with anger and injustice and maybe some hurt or frustration. Maybe you say some unkind things in return and get even more riled up.
Can you think of a time that happened to you?
I know I sure can. My article on forgiveness a couple weeks ago where I mentioned the fight I got into with my sister is a prime example of this.
The thing is while our mind is busy taking things personally our heart is shutting down and we are waaaay far away from the love we desire.