Thursday was the 4 year anniversary of my dad’s death…that coupled with the full moon had me doing a lot of reflecting and there have been some big waves of emotion as surprising memories came to the surface to be soothed…there was also an awareness that the important relationships in our life are layered and take time to be fully processed and healed.
In conjunction with that I also feel great gratitude for the growth of our relationship over the last years of his life.
Have you ever wanted a “do over” with one or both of your parents? Wipe the slate clean and start fresh? Did you do it? Or did you hold back feeling a little anxious?
I get it. I was scared and stayed stuck for years not really knowing how to change things. In the past, I had “dipped my big toe” a bit, but I had never “dove in” to make lasting change.
Until one day I reached a point where it was more important than not to heal this relationship. You see, I started feeling like I was missing out – not only with my dad but in my personal life too. I recognized the trickle effect it was having with romantic partners as well. And so I began to take it seriously and boy am I glad I did.
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As I reflected I realized growing up I had a lot of resentment towards my dad – although he was a good provider for our family he was never around, and when he was physically present, he was sitting in his chair reading his paper. I felt pretty unimportant and never developed an emotional connection with him.
Without having experienced that early bonding as I grew up I found myself in a pattern of attracting emotionally unavailable men… and although I dreamed of a man I could have a solid, deeply loving marriage with, without understanding what it was to bond, I attracted and married a man who was completely emotionally and often physically unavailable ( his business was in another country).
After my marriage fell apart I started to realize my beliefs and habits were blocking me – I was my biggest obstacle. Determined and armed with courage I was ready to climb over my story and create a new one.
I feel very blessed to have been given the courage to take the steps to heal my relationship with my dad and create great memories together. I am forever grateful for the closeness we developed, the release of resentment, and the resulting opening of my heart and the continued deeper healing that gives me the opportunity to grow my heart even more.
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