Celebrating you…YOU matter greatly!

Moms, in general, deserve a HUGE shout out of thanks for all the selfless ways you give to your families. Add COVID-19 to the mix and you ladies have become saints! I’m in awe of the way you are helping your kids navigate the current changes and bringing your families closer with creative fun activities.

With Mother’s Day tomorrow, not only are you to be honored, but we are reminded to celebrate our own mothers and all the women in our lives who are mothers.

It’s also a great time to reflect on how you love you…whether you are a mother or not, ask yourself, “Do I honor, nurture, and nourish myself?” In other words, are you a good mom to you?

Let’s face it, we all give and nurture others at one time or another. Some of us do it continually, taking care of other people in our lives, being present for them and serving them on a daily basis.

Many of us set aside our own needs and desires in order to help someone else. Sometimes it’s absolutely necessary to care for someone, especially a sick friend or aging parent. At other times, we may be called upon to support a colleague who is going through an emotional upheaval.

Although there is nothing wrong with giving our time, energy, love and attention to others – and there are times when it is absolutely essential that we do so – the danger is that we can care for others to the point of being off-balance in our own lives, losing our sparkle and Self in the process.

How does it look when we become off-balanced when we aren’t tending to our own needs? How does it feel when we haven’t focused on self-renewal or taken steps to revitalize and replenish ourselves? Well, imagine that you are a big, beautiful crystal pitcher filled with lemonade.

Surrounding you is a circle of glasses that want to be filled up. These glasses represent the people in your life – your mate, your kids, your boss, siblings, parents, friends, colleagues, etc. As you focus on filling up everyone’s glasses – filling and refilling them because everyone continues to want more – what happens?

Eventually, the pitcher gets emptied. There’s no more lemonade to pour into the glasses. The pitcher is depleted. Everyone around you still wants more of your wonderful, yummy lemonade, but if the pitcher is not being refilled and replenished, eventually there is nothing more for you to give. That’s what happens when you do not take the time for self-renewal.

Like the pitcher, you eventually have nothing left to offer. You’ve squeezed yourself dry. Yet, you continue to try to give. However, now what you are able to “serve up” becomes flat – it doesn’t taste sweet anymore.

Even though you know you are running on empty you push yourself to pour your pitcher anyway. And those who you serve are aware – often unconsciously – that what you’re providing isn’t as good as it once was. Maybe what you now offer is laced with bitterness, resentment, frustration and even anger.

So, what can you do to refill your pitcher – to renew yourself? First, it’s vital that you understand a key concept: the most important relationship you will ever have in your life is the one you have with yourself! If that relationship is not rock solid, and full of love for yourself, you can lose your way-even lose your sense of Self-and feel isolated, separate, and disconnected from everyone and everything (even if you are living in the same house!).

Alternatively, the more you nurture your relationship with yourself, the more you are ready and able to have relationships with others and give to them – whether that’s a spouse, partner, friends, or family members.

How can you renew and nurture your relationship with you? At the core must be the belief that you are valuable, that you deserve to be cared for, and that you’re worth it. So, the first step is to love yourself. You must be able to see that you are worthy of love and that the most important love you’ll ever receive is the love and acceptance you give yourself. It starts with you.

Once you acknowledge that you are important and worthy of love and self-care, you can take time to appreciate who you are and spend time refilling your pitcher. There are many ways to do this. To begin with, plan to give yourself some undivided attention. Focus on what you can do to breathe new life into your body, mind, and spirit.

Here are just a few suggestions to get you started:

1. Soak in the tub. If you love taking baths, create a tranquil ambiance – including candles and music – and soak in scented bath salts that relax and refresh all of you.

2. Get moving. For your body, exercise is another important component to include. Be sure to choose an exercise you enjoy and put it in your planner. Keep your appointment with YOU.

3. Eat well. Make healthy food choices and say ‘no’ to white flour products and refined sugar.

4. Take supplements. Research a good supplement plan and put it in place … one you can stick with.

5. Listen to your body. Listen to your body and take care of your needs. Eat when you’re hungry, sleep when you’re tired, get a massage, indulge in a mani-pedi, and kick any destructive habits/addictions you may be using to cope, like alcohol, drugs, or food abuse. Don’t be afraid to reach out for support.

6. Appreciate yourself. Don’t forget about the little somethings that put smiles on faces and do those things for you. Write yourself a love letter, send a note of gratitude to yourself, or even have flowers delivered to you at home.

Give yourself permission to show yourself some special love, attention, and appreciation. Remember: it’s okay to admit that you need to be cared for as you care for others. That said, I encourage you to be a good mom to yourself. Take time this week to acknowledge and renew your relationship with yourself.

You matter greatly,

 

 

 

PS: As a gift to you, I’d love to offer you a complimentary session with me! Just CLICK HERE to access the calendar and pick a time that is best for you.

May 7, 2020  |  Uncategorized  |  Share

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