How to Forgive in 7 Steps

“If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive.”

~ Mother Theresa

Wow – powerful quote…and sometimes easier said than done, right?

Is there anyone you’re holding a grudge against and having difficulty letting it go?

I get it – I’ve been there. Several years ago my sister and I got into a massive fight just minutes before interviewing my lead expert for a summit I was hosting. She said some things that shook me to my core.

I was stunned and shocked thinking, “Are you kidding me? You know I’m about to do one of the most important interviews of my life and you’re choosing NOW to bring all this up?” I was trembling with anger, my mind was frazzled and I was so hurt…but as I put on my lipstick I told myself to push it aside and pull it together!

And with the grace of God I was able to in that moment.

But once my interview was over it all bubbled right back up even bigger than before – the whole horrible experience kept playing over and over again in my mind – I wasn’t able to push it aside. I told the rest of my family and all my friends every little detail of what had happened, playing my victim role to the hilt and spiraling down into a vortex of blame, judgment, and self-pity. Ugghh, not something I’m proud of today but at the time, I felt justified.

Ever happen to you? Ever fall into the rabbit hole of righteousness and claim the “I’ve been wronged” role with a vengeance?”

Although it’s easy to do, it sure doesn’t make you feel very good does it?

After a few weeks of sleepless nights, lack of focus and an upset stomach this situation was taking its toll on me. I clung to the belief my sister should apologize, but that apology never came. Sound familiar?

I was tired of feeling so ugly inside and knew I had a choice – I could stay stuck in my story and all twisted up inside OR I could empower myself to shift out of it by healing the hurt. Click here to learn how…

Sparkling love,

Sherri

PS – If you are at a place where you want more freedom – where you know forgiveness, and letting go of resentments and hurts would move you forward into a happier life, take a look at Soul Sparkle Retreat

June 15, 2019  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

How to Release the Past and Feel Free

Last month we looked at the importance and life-changing principles of self-love and having more fun. This month we’ll take on another concept: forgiveness.

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”

-Lewis B. Smedes

The truth is that forgiveness goes hand-in-hand with self-love and having fun; you cannot truly forgive yourself and others if you don’t feel, deeply and truly, that you deserve the freedom that comes with forgiveness. And you are limited in the amount of fun you allow yourself to have when you are holding onto negative emotions.

Embrace Forgiveness and Release the Past

For many people, there’s a need to release the past and let go of things that have happened (or not happened) so they can have gratitude for what’s going on right now, in the present moment.

I understand it’s not always easy. I personally just released another layer of buried resentment and hurt around my ex that had been wallowing somewhere inside me for years without my conscious awareness. Over the years, I had truly believed that I’d forgiven him 100% and released every angry thought and injustice only to discover another “deep hurt” rise to the surface. I was so surprised and happy to learn of this hidden gremlin that I could now heal and release. 

Afterward I felt not only enlightened but lighter AND so grateful for the training I’ve had to be able to let go of this so quickly. It was also a HUGE understanding that forgiveness is not a “one and done” – it’s layered.

And believe me… it is incredibly powerful to let it go! It’s such a freeing feeling, which underlines an important point: the practice of forgiveness doesn’t mean you’re “letting someone off the hook” or “excusing poor behavior.” Not at all!

Forgiveness isn’t for the benefit of others – it’s for your own benefit.

As we forgive and shift the constricted energy around our heart center, we allow love to come in. The anger and resentment, the pain, the defensiveness; all those tough emotions block love from coming in and keep us separate from the people who want to love us.

Forgive others so that you can experience more love, joy and freedom in your life.

How to Choose Forgiveness

Many of us unconsciously hold the belief that our anger protects us – maybe we think if we forgive someone, we’ll be susceptible to allowing that person back in our lives. We might secretly fear that we’ll fall in love with him again or put ourselves into an unhealthy or undesirable situation.

Understandably, that belief creates a barrier to forgiveness. But the reality is that when you forgive someone, you’re just dissolving the negative emotional bond to the person or incident. You’re simply releasing yourself from the prison of fear, resentment and defensiveness.

If you’re ready to shift forward into a paradigm of love, freedom and compassion, here are some questions you can ask yourself:

  • What do I get out of holding on to the hurt?
  • What is my payoff from refusing to forgive?
  • Who would I be if I didn’t feel like a victim in this area?
  • By hanging onto the negative emotion, what part of my life am I not taking responsibility for?

Sit with these questions and allow the answers to arise naturally. There’s a lot worth looking at, and when you do, it might bring up some emotions – but trust that there is something very beautiful on the other side.

I’m talking about freedom, my Sparkle Sister. And it’s yours for the taking:))

Sparkling love,

Sherri

PS – If you are at a place where you want more freedom – where you know forgiveness, and letting go of resentments and hurts would move you forward into a happier life, take a look at Soul Sparkle Retreat

June 8, 2019  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Men Find This Very Sexy

Did you know that happy women appear sexier to men? Smiling makes you more approachable and sends a positive signal that acts like a magnetic force for attracting other happy people.

Perhaps even more exciting, the happier you are, the more confident you are. When we’re cheerful we feel confident in ourselves and our abilities. Happiness is not a sporadically occurring phenomenon; it is the result of our responses – the more regularly we experience happiness as a response, the more confident we become in our ability to succeed and be happy.

This confidence is the most natural confidence that a woman can possess and one that is noticed by others. Once you are happy and confident that you can continue to make yourself happy, your comfort zone begins to expand – people will love that about you.

The biggest secret that happy women know is……

Click here to find out what the secret to happiness is

Sparkling love,

Sherri

PS – Check out what Bronzie had to say about last years Soul Sparkle Retreat and why she’s coming back this year…

June 1, 2019  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

How to Be Fun Fabulous and Feminine

One important thing I’ve learned about living a life of happiness that’s full of richness is that it requires one very special ingredient – FUN!

No matter what is going on in your life if you are able to laugh and play you can endure anything! When you are having fun the heavy veils lift, the sky’s open and fairy dust comes pouring down to brighten your heart and give you a fresh perspective.

This holiday weekend is the perfect time to add some fun into your life – there are so many festivities happening!

Are you in?

Click here to learn the fabulous benefits of having fun!

xo,

Sherri

PS – A wonderful way to have more fun is to get out of town – if you are loooonging for a few days JUST FOR YOU- To play and laugh and frolic, check out the Soul Sparkle Retreat! Join a small intimate beautiful group of like-minded ladies who are looking to do the exact same thing as you – and have FUN doing it! Soul Sparkle Retreat.

May 25, 2019  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

4 Tips to Create More Love in Your Life

Last week if you are a mom, you probably experienced well deserved appreciation from your kids. Hopefully you felt that warm gooey happy feeling in your heart that makes you smile and glow. But what if you didn’t receive that recognition from your kids or what if you don’t have kids to acknowledge and love you?

Everyone deserves to live a life filled with love and loving connections.

So how can we intentionally create and experience more love? Although many of us look for love on the outside, the path to love really begins inside. This Rumi quote describes it perfectly:

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. ~ Rumi

Too often, the lack of deep love in our lives comes from a lack of self-love and self-compassion. Most of us are incredibly hard on ourselves feeling guilty for every little thing. And then the monkey mind starts to chatter: “I’m not good enough. I’m not worthy.” “I’m not interesting enough.” “I’m too old.” “What’s wrong with me?”

And of course, the goalposts for what counts as “good enough” seem always to remain out of reach. No matter how well we do, it never seems to be “enough”! The result of this line of thinking is sobering: Millions of people suffer from insecurity, anxiety, and depression, and much of this is due to self-judgment, to beating ourselves up when we feel we aren’t measuring up.

So what’s the answer?

Here are 4 empowering ways you can create more love in your life and the great news? You can step into them starting NOW!

Declare to Have More Fun

One of the most common complaints I hear from women is that they don’t have fun anymore. I was talking to a client who’s attending my upcoming retreat, and I mentioned to her that we’d be doing some belly dancing to connect and liberate our feminine essence (any form of dancing is a quick, easy way to get out of our heads and into our bodies and have fun!). She commented she wasn’t much for dancing and while she didn’t say much more than that, I was pretty sure I knew why.

So many of us have a fear of looking foolish or being judged by other people. Many women don’t allow themselves the freedom to express through body movement because of these fears. Truly nothing stops the flow of fun quicker than the fear of being judged – you stiffen, contract and box yourself in – almost like putting on a straight jacket. It’s almost impossible to have fun when you feel so constrained! On the other hand, as soon as you release the fear of looking silly, you’re able to let loose and have a great time. Make the declaration that you are letting go of caring what others think and you are free to have fun!

Declare to Speak Your Truth

In my coaching practice, I meet a lot of women who are afraid to say what’s important to them because they don’t think they’ll be heard or taken seriously. But when we hold our thoughts and suppress what we want to say day in and day out, we start to feel very heavy. Speaking your truth allows you to live in integrity with yourself and honor your own needs as much as everyone else’s. It brings a lightness to your spirit, a sense of expansion and empowerment.

One of my clients recently began to speak freely with her husband about things she’d never felt comfortable bringing up before. She’d always been careful to think about what was in his best interests, and now she’s addressing what’s in her best interests as well. He was a little surprised at first and didn’t know how to react to this change in her behavior, but she feels incredibly empowered and free.

When you start speaking your truth, you may find that others don’t respond well at first, because they are used to you being and acting in a certain way. Know that by speaking up and setting new boundaries not only are you growing, but you are actually providing them with the opportunity to grow too, even if it doesn’t look like it initially. Believe me, it’s a win/win!

Declare to Nourish Your Mind, Body, and Well-Being

You may decide that this is the month you’re going to release those last five pounds you’ve been holding onto or finally get back into your favorite old jeans that have been hanging in your closet for two years. If so, fantastic! AND you can also make July the month you start meditating/praying, moving your body more or getting more sleep. This declaration is about being more caring to yourself and your body, worrying less about everyone else and focusing on what makes you feel like your most gorgeous, sparkling self.

Declare to Create Balance in Your Life

Just because the kids have all sorts of projects, school events and requests, it doesn’t mean that you have to be at their beck and call every second of the day. Set some boundaries and declare your freedom from the commitments you don’t want to make. Start saying “no” instead of “yes,” and don’t feel guilty about it! Your life doesn’t have to revolve around your kids’ and other people’s demands.

Which of these declarations speak to you? Do you have one of your own for May?

Step into your diamond power and have a sparkling good time this month!

Sparkling Love,

Sherri

PS – A wonderful way to nurture and care for yourself is to get out of town – if you are loooonging for a few days JUST FOR YOU- where you will be loved and cared for, check out the Soul Sparkle Retreat! Join a small intimate beautiful group of like-minded ladies who are looking to do the exact same thing as you – and have FUN doing it! Soul Sparkle Retreat.

May 18, 2019  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

7 Tips to Sparkle with Self-Love

Give yourself some TLC with these 7 solid tips!

With Mother’s Day today, we are reminded to honor our own mothers and all the women in our lives who are mothers. But, what about you? Whether you are a mother or not, do you honor, nurture and nourish yourself? In other words, are you a good mom to you?

Many of us set aside our own needs and desires in order to help someone else. Sometimes it’s absolutely necessary to care for someone, especially a sick friend or aging parent. At other times, we may be called upon to support a colleague who is going through emotional upheaval.

Let’s face it, we all offer ourselves and nurture others at one time or another. Some of us do it continually, taking care of other people in our lives, being present for them and serving them on a daily basis.

Although it is beautiful to give our time, energy, love and attention to others – especially at those times when it is absolutely essential that we do so – there is a danger of forgetting about ourselves and our needs to be nurtured. This creates an imbalance in our own lives, causing us to lose our sparkle and self in the process.

And, let’s get honest, it can be exhausting, right? No matter how much you love others and are happy to give, you need a break! Otherwise you start breaking down…

Click here to discover 7 tips to boost your energy and avoid “break-down”…

Sparkling love,

Sherri

PS – A wonderful way to nurture and care for yourself is to get out of town – if you are loooonging for a few days JUST FOR YOU- where you will be loved and cared for, check out the Soul Sparkle Retreat! Join a small intimate beautiful group of like-minded ladies who are looking to do the exact same thing as you – and have FUN doing it! Soul Sparkle Retreat.

May 11, 2019  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Learn How to Vibrate at the Level of Love

Do you long for soulful love? That deep, joyful, expansive feeling that fills you up? If you are like most women you are shaking your head with an emphatic YES! Perhaps also feeling frustrated because it has escaped your grasp. Even though you are successful, smart, in a relationship and have lots of friends you feel like something is missing.

If this is you, you’re not alone. I’ve spoken to thousands of women over the past decade who feel exactly the same way and I have to admit I used to feel the same way until I discovered the truth about love. Most of us look to our partner or the relationship we have with our kids, siblings, friends or parents to satisfy our need for love. Yes we can receive love in all of these situations, however, they can also be roller coaster experiences of love – bringing disappointment and not providing the consistency we crave.

So what’s the secret?

It’s actually super simple and thrilling. There is one source of authentic, unconditional Love and it’s there 24/7 for everyone to dip into, to try on, to bask in, to explore deeply. To love is inherent in our nature. The problem is we get so busy, so involved in our own lives, so self focused on what we have on our never, never, never ending to do list that we spiral out of control in the opposite direction of love – we spiral into anxiety, stress and disconnection.

All you have to do is let go of all the details you crowd your mind with and stress yourself out over. At the end of the day is the minutia  bringing you closer or further away from the joy-filled life you crave? On top of all the details there’s the fears and anxiety you have about not completing all the details. Jeez Louise what a whirling dervish scenario spinning you like a top and getting nowhere but stressed and frustrated. There is a way out that will bring peace and joy! Hallelujah!!

The solution and why it’s important for you:

Look inside…all the love you desire is cultivated within – – it’s that simple. Pushing to please, exhausting yourself with doing to prove your worth will never ever get you the love you desire. I know, I’ve tried that route and it’s a black hole. Fraught with fear we forget how easy it is, at any given moment to let love in. We cry about losing love, but the truth is we never lose the perfect love of Christ. This is a love you can count on, lean on and trust. It will never disappoint you, hurt you or deceive you. This is a love that loves to love you….if you let it.

The way to reconnect is easier than you think – but it does require that you give yourself time and space. And I don’t care how busy you are, you deserve at least 15 minutes a day just for you !!! So take it!!!

Here are a few ways to reconnect:

  • Sit or walk in nature and soak in the sun – soak in the beauty of this God given fortress of life we have the privilege of inhabiting. Love abounds in nature. Love abounds in animals, children, it’s available in every moment if you stop and listen to life’s orchestra – it’s beautiful and waiting for you….
  • Meditate or pray – when you quiet your mind it’s easier to drop into your heart and body where connection is possible.
  • Love vibrates at 528Hz. This frequency resonates at the heart of the Sun (recorded by NASA scientists). Sunbeams, the rainbow, flowers, grass and even the buzzing of bees vibrates at 528Hz. Nature in balance vibrates at 528Hz. It is the frequency of life itself.

More than any sound previously discovered, the “LOVE frequency” resonates at the heart of everything. It connects your heart, your spiritual essence, to the profound experience of heaven on earth.

When I wake up in the morning I put my running shoes on and move in nature. Instantly I feel love exploding within and joy pressing into every cell. Awareness of the sweetness of life takes me to a whole other level – the 528 HZ level – right into my heart– setting me free of any gunk or funk I may have woken up with and installing a great foundation of love for my day.

It’s no surprise that the Love frequency is the “Miracle” note of the original Solfeggio musical scale. Independently confirmed by researchers, these core creative frequencies were used by ancient priests and healers in advanced civilizations to manifest miracles and produce blessings.

Many of you may live in the city and not have access to a park like I do – so I want to give you another way to connect with the Love frequency (click here). A beautiful video with the 528 HZ frequency

Play this everyday for the fast track to love and happiness.

Are you willing to experiment with something new? To be part of a new revolution – to be ONE with the power that is breathing you? Are you tired of feeling like something is missing? You don’t have to anymore! Create the space. Allow yourself to rest. Lift yourself up by connecting with Love thru nature. This is where God plays and speaks to us.

Believe in Love, it does exist! 🙂

Sparkling love,

Sherri

PS – If you long for more soulful love and want to take some dedicated time, just for you, to learn how to do this consistently check out the Soul Sparkle Retreat!

May 4, 2019  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

75% of Women Experience This…Do you?

I was shocked when I read these statistics…and it made me sad. I thought, WOW.. this HAS to change!

Tell me if you agree…

* 75% of women are experiencing chronic stress? Did you know that?

PLUS:

* 1 in 4 women over 40 are on anti-depressants!!!!

That’s a lot of emotional distress happening, stealing your joy, radiance and happiness.

I say the time to change this is NOW! Don’t you agree?

Because the reality is, either you or a woman you know:

  1. Lacks confidence and has low self-esteem in love
  2. Feels like something is definitely missing
  3. Chronically busy – no time for herself
  4. Living for everyone else and feels lost and/or unappreciated
  5. Wants to open her heart but is scared to get hurt again

Or maybe you or a woman you know has gone from high functioning to low functioning and feels stuck and frustrated.

When you are in the murky waters of your mind getting unstuck and creating happiness can seem elusive; you can spin your wheels waiting for things to change.

The truth is you DESERVE to sparkle and have a life you love!!!

Which is why, if you can relate to any of the above, I have a solution for you.

Let me tell you about something I know, without a shadow of a doubt, will transform your life – something I’ve given a lot of thought to, keeping you and your needs in the forefront of my mind.

I’ve created an immersive experience for you that will definitely bring your va-va voom back…

Ready to hear my remedy for results?

I’m proud to present the 3rd annual Soul Sparkle Retreat.

This soul-enriching adventure will provide you with the tools and support you need to make REAL CHANGE for lasting results. You will leave feeling like a new woman, totally empowered having released the past and opening your heart. You will also have a practical plan of action for bringing more love and joy into your daily life.

This retreat is highly experiential – you will not be sitting indoors all day learning content (although we do a little of that). The majority of the time you will be transforming through awesome experiences.

Click here to discover what Soul Sparkle will do for you!

If you struggle with doing something nice for yourself, know you are not alone. These women felt just like you and made a decision to stop waiting and take action. Here’s what they had to say about their experience at Soul Sparkle Retreat last year:


“This has been an amazing retreat! I’m leaving with my heart and soul refreshed and ready to expand my life. It exceeded my expectations!” ~ Peggy


“What a very positive, rejuvenating, energizing, inspirational and fulfilling experience! I became clear on how I want to show up in the next chapter of my life. Recently ending a marriage I needed to move through to the other side and leave that life behind. I made the right choice to come to Soul Sparkle Retreat – this is right where I needed to be.” ~ Jane


“Soul Sparkle was a great experience – something I really needed to do to get back to me.”~ K.D.


“I wanted to get out of my comfort zone and I feel I faced old fears and definitely stepped out of my box. This was an excellent experience bringing me growth and awareness and it was fun! Met some awesome women too!” ~ Patty


Here’s why I’m sharing these with you – these women made the choice to put themselves first so they could create a more joyful, fulfilling, love-filled life AND show up with more love for those they love.

So here’s what’s NEXT if you choose:

Soul Sparkle Retreat has only a few spots left – if you are interested in feeling happy, reconnecting and anchoring more solidly into your beautiful, diamond essence, and generally expanding your life with more love, this would be a great next step for you.

Simply click here to fill out a form so I can schedule a time to speak with you and see if this retreat is a good fit for you.

If you feel a longing in your heart, hurry and book a time to chat with me – there are only 2 spots left! Does one belong to you?

Sparkling love,

Sherri

April 27, 2019  |  Uncategorized, Womens Empowerment  |  No Comments  |  Share

7 Ways to Fill Up with Sensuality

Are you like most women, forgetting to take care of you when life is coming at you like a tsunami? It’s easy to live in your head and disconnect from the core essence of YOU when one thing after another is coming at you. When that’s happening do you know how to fill yourself up with your most loving, sensual, playful self?

It’s ok, you can admit it, not many women do. Honestly most women aren’t schooled or mentored in how to do this – we are taught how to make other people happy, how to make money, how to sacrifice our needs and made to feel selfish if we want a more pleasurable life.

In truth you don’t have to change who you are to have what you want. Simply embrace these 7 tips to fill up with your God-given feminine, sensual self. When you make a commitment to show up fully in this charismatic essence you will experience a much more love-filled, happy life!

Click here to find out 7 soulful ways to feel sensual…

Sparkling love,

Sherri

PS – If you would like help filling up with your soulful sensual Self check out the Soul Sparkle Retreat! Join a small intimate group of like-minded women who are looking to do the exact same thing as you – and have FUN doing it! Soul Sparkle Retreat.

April 20, 2019  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Love Tip

Have you ever had the thought, “What’s wrong with me? Why did _____________(he have an affair, leave the relationship, stop wanting me OR stop wanting to spend time with me, stop paying attention to me, stop talking to me,… fill in the blank with whatever it is for you).

We’ve all had experiences and situations in our lives that have in effect, forced us to build protective barriers to guard our hearts. When built, they may have served in protection, but the trick is to know when to allow your walls to collapse and let the old stories go. Once this happens, love pours in.

And the truth is everyone deserves to live a life filled with love and loving connections. So how can we intentionally create and experience more love?Although many of us look for love on the outside, the path to love really begins inside. This Rumi quote describes it perfectly:

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. ~ Rumi

Too often, the lack of deep love in our lives comes from a lack of self-love and self-compassion. Many of our love barriers were created to protect ourselves from our own inner critic. Most of us are incredibly hard on ourselves. When faced with our flaws the negative self chatter starts: “I’m not good enough. I’m worthless.” “I’m not interesting enough.” “I’m too old – who would want me?”

And of course, the goalposts for what counts as “good enough” seem always to remain out of reach. No matter how well we do, someone else always seems to be doing it better. The result of this line of thinking is sobering: Millions of people suffer from insecurity, anxiety, and depression, and much of this is due to self-judgment, to beating ourselves up when we feel we aren’t measuring up.

So what’s the answer?

To stop judging and evaluating ourselves altogether. To stop trying to label ourselves as “good” or “bad” and simply accept ourselves with an open heart. To treat ourselves with the same kindness, caring, love and compassion we would show to a good friend.

The secret to feeling more love is to practice staying open to love.

Develop a compassionate heart for yourself and others. Jesus of Nazareth talked a lot about the importance of compassion and having compassion for yourself is just as important as having compassion for others. From a spiritual point of view, you have to care about yourself before you can really care about other people. This has nothing to do with being self-centered, it has everything to do with being Self-centered. There’s a big difference between the two. When “self-centered” you think only of yourself and your needs continuously. When Self-centered you take the time to connect with your Diamond Power (the Power breathing you) and do the things that nurture and bring peace to your soul, so that you can show up 100% for your loved ones.

When you feel safe within yourself – knowing you are never alone -that God is always there with and for you; others will be drawn to your light and open heart. The opportunities to both give and receive love will be abundant.

Love is one of those things that it’s so expansive and infinite in nature; we will never have “too much” of it. We can only acquire more. Which is kind of the whole point isn’t it? When we heal ourselves more and more we can receive all of life’s blessings and love.So get in there, work it out. Remove any and all things that may be getting in the way of you experiencing MORE LOVE in your everyday life. I hope and wish for you the healing and the experiences for your container to hold this magnificent gift to grow and grow, and grow with each new day.

Sparkling love,
Sherri

PS – If you would like to develop more Self-Love a truly transformational experience is waiting for you at Soul Sparkle Retreat! Join a small intimate group of like-minded women who are looking to do the exact same thing as you – and have FUN doing it! Soul Sparkle Retreat.

April 13, 2019  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share