How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

In my last article, we explored the power of charisma to attract and inspire. When you connect with your charismatic nature, you shine with a light that is irresistible to the people around you. However, sometimes we inadvertently disconnect from that light by engaging in self-defeating behaviors that dim our sparkle and leave us feeling lousy.

One way to immediately lose touch with your charisma is by comparing yourself to others. Teddy Roosevelt once said, “Comparison is the thief of joy,” and boy, was he right! When you compare, you engage in a thought pattern that wreaks havoc with your self-image and takes away your inner light like nothing else.

Click here to learn 3 tips to stop comparison.

August 11, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Tips for Connecting with Your Authentic Charisma

Last month, we explored a variety of ways you can step into your freedom and connect with your inner sparkle. When you’re tapped into that energy, you feel the light of God pouring through you, removing all the sludge that’s accumulated around your inner diamond so that your beautiful light can shine out into the world.

A few weeks ago 10 AWESOME and AMAZING women did just that at Soul Sparkle Retreat (pics above) – it was incredible and awe’ing to see them totally transform in less than 24 hours of their arrival. Intentions were made, fears released, hearts opened and deeply connected friendships born – that’s the power of immersion. I felt like a proud mama as I witnessed these lovely ladies LETTING GO of OLD haunting, hurtful beliefs and EMBRACING their vivacious, unique, feminine Divine essence to SHINE fully!. Simply stunning!

So this month, I want to celebrate that vibrant energy with a series of posts aimed at helping you do what these ladies did, connect with your natural charisma! You have it, it’s inside of you, all you have to do is bring it to the surface and let it shine like the bright August sun!

According to author and spiritual teacher, Marianne Williamson, charisma was initially a religious term meaning, “of the spirit,” or “inspired.” She writes, “Charisma is a sparkle in people that money can’t buy. It’s an invisible energy with visible effects”

Charisma Isn’t Only for Movie Stars

Too many people mistakenly believe that charisma is something only certain people have when actually, we all possess it and can cultivate it by developing a sense of ownership over our unique gifts and talents.

I have a friend who’s in her 70s, and she shines about as bright as any woman possibly could! She has this effusive energy that draws people to her like a magnet. When you’re around her, it feels like she’s been plugged into an electrical socket and is just radiating loving, bright energy in your direction.

By developing your charisma, you are:

  • Allowing your true light to shine through. When this happens, you become expansive and open. You are literally channeling your inner diamond power.
  • Opening yourself up to connect with others. When you allow yourself to be in a connected space with others, smiling and making eye contact, they feel it, and they respond to you! I’ve challenged several of my clients who feel isolated to go out, make eye contact and smile at strangers! Do this, and I promise you’ll feel an immediate mood boost!
  • Revealing your sparkling soul. When you give yourself permission to show up and freely express your unique magnificence, a lot of amazing things begin to happen! People around you have clarity about who you are and can see the purity of your soul and spirit. That openness and beauty bring out the best in them, inspiring a connection, and creating a ripple effect!

Reconnecting to Your Charisma

There are so many ways that we lose the connection to our soul essence. In my next post, we’ll explore how comparing yourself to others can cause you to lose touch with the charismatic energy that you were born to express.

Until then, the best way to begin reconnecting with your charisma is through meditation or prayer. Get silent, breathe and call to a Higher power. To assist with this, I invite you to download my free fifteen-minute Diamond Power meditation, which will guide you to a peaceful state and help you align with your beautiful soulful essence.

Sparkling love,

Sherri

August 4, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  3 Comments  |  Share

Free Yourself by Becoming More Accepting of Others

This month, we’ve been celebrating independence with a series of posts aimed at helping you free yourself from limiting thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors so that you can move forward with clarity while inviting more love, joy, and fun into your life. I know this might sound counterintuitive, but one of the best ways you can create and nurture a sense of freedom for yourself, is by learning how to accept others exactly as they are.

Loosen Your Grip

It’s very common to want our loved ones, kids, friends, siblings even strangers to say things or behave in ways that we find acceptable and pleasing. However, having those expectations often sets us up for disappointment. If you think about it, what we are saying with this expectancy is, “you have to act this way in order for me to feel ok”. No wonder many of us are upset and frustrated much of the time – with this belief we give our power away, reliant on others to create our state of being. What an emotional roller coaster!

Click here to learn 3 tips to become more accepting of others…

July 28, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Freedom from Fatigue

Alright, ladies, it’s time to learn how to free yourself from mind and body fatigue!!. If you are like most women you’re on overdrive, expecting yourself to get more done in a day than you used to do in a week a decade ago. Our lives have become so busy!!! Between the career, the kids, the aging parents, family and friends we are often dropping into bed exhausted physically and mentally every night.

Would you like to change that?

Click on this interview to learn simple, quick things you can do to go from fatigued to energized AND improve your memory and mental health. Viva la freedom!

This week, I want you to focus on how to put these tips into practice to become your most vibrant, vivacious, vital Self!

Sparkling love,

Sherri

 

July 21, 2018  |  Womens Empowerment  |  No Comments  |  Share

Are Your Beliefs Holding You Hostage?

Alright, ladies, you’ve already declared to have more fun, speak your mind and take better care of yourself in July. . For this week, I want you to focus on reframing those beliefs that limit expansion and keep you from becoming your most divine, free and sparkling self.

Open Up a Corner of Your Mind

When Napoleon Hill was researching his seminal work, The Laws of Success, which would later become Think and Grow Rich, he had the opportunity to talk with Andrew Carnegie. Carnegie told Hill that he wanted him to look in the mirror every day and tell himself that he would surpass Carnegie in wealth.

To Hill that was preposterous. Carnegie was the wealthiest man in the world! But he did it. For weeks, Hill looked into the mirror and repeated the mantra that Carnegie had given him. Hill said that at first, he could barely look at himself. But by the third week, there was a little corner of his mind that started believing it was possible.

Reimagine What’s Possible for Yourself

One of my clients believed there was a glass ceiling in her industry she could not break through. She wanted to make more money and have a flexible schedule so that she could spend more time with her daughters but she had become convinced that her boss would never say yes to either.

We worked on her vision first, what it would look like and feel like to live that life. Next we discovered the beliefs that didn’t support her vision – beliefs that had been with her most of her life giving her false perceptions about what was possible for her. After reframing those new beliefs her action step was to talk with her boss…and when she did it was a home run! She ended up with higher pay than anyone in her industry, and the flexible work schedule she’d wanted!

Click here to discover the 3 step system I gave my client to make her dream a reality!

July 14, 2018  |  Womens Empowerment  |  No Comments  |  Share

Free Yourself with Personal Boundaries

If you’ve been reading this blog for a while, then you know I often talk about the importance of setting boundaries with other people. But it’s equally as important to set boundaries with yourself. Now, I know what you’re thinking. “Sherri, this whole month is about declaring my independence! Why are you talking about boundaries?” While boundaries might sound rigid, creating them is an essential first step towards setting yourself free!

Setting Boundaries Around Your Thoughts

One summer morning, I went out early, and I saw a woman walking her dog. It was a big dog, but you could tell he was still a puppy, and he was going nuts! First, there was a bird he wanted to chase, then it was a squirrel, then a gardener revved up his lawnmower, and the dog tried to dart across the street. Every time he tried to run off, his owner tugged on his collar, sometimes gently, sometimes with a little more force.

I looked at that dog, and thought, “This is how we are with our thoughts.” They take our attention here, there and everywhere. They zap our energy, hold us captive and keep us from becoming our glorious, sparkling selves. We have to rein them in just as that woman did with her dog.

Setting Boundaries Around Your Emotions

We all go through periods of depression, sadness or discomfort but we want to be careful not to wallow in these emotions. It is important though to acknowledge your feelings. Pretending that a difficult experience didn’t happen isn’t any healthier than refusing to move on from it. Allow yourself the time to process and heal, but decide that after a specific amount of time, you’re going to put the experience behind you and move forward.

Setting Boundaries Around Your Physical Movement

Creating healthy boundaries around physical movement is especially important for anyone who sits at a desk all day long. Set the alarm on your phone to remind you when it’s time to get up and stretch or drink a glass of water. Put on your favorite music and dance for two minutes or do an easy cross crawl, where you touch opposite hand to opposite knee while marching in place. Any of these activities will bring fresh oxygen to your brain, allowing you to work more efficiently and have better, more creative ideas.

Setting Boundaries Around Your Behavior in Relationships

I have a friend who recently admitted to me that she’s been stalking her boyfriend online. When I asked her why she was doing this, she told me, “If he’s doing things behind my back, I want to know so that I don’t end up getting hurt.”

This type of behavior is extremely common, and it isn’t just a problem in romantic relationships. Maybe you feel like someone at work is out to get you or can’t be trusted. If you go looking for evidence that supports those beliefs, chances are good you’re going to find it and end up making assumptions that have no truth to them at all. Free yourself from the need to confirm your worst fears and trust that God will show you whatever you are meant to know at the perfect time.

Did this post ring true to you? If so, leave a comment below and let me know what steps your taking to set healthy boundaries with yourself. Let your boundaries set you free!!!!!

xo

Sherri

July 7, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  5 Comments  |  Share

Find Your Freedom With These Tips

With July 4th right around the corner, now is the perfect time to focus on manifesting a sense of freedom in your daily life. This month’s posts will be all about helping you shake free of the thoughts, beliefs, and actions that have been holding you back from achieving your dreams, so you can declare your independence, step into your diamond power and have a sparkling good time this summer and throughout the year!

Declare to Have More Fun

One of the most common complaints I hear from women is that they don’t have fun anymore. I was talking to a client who’s attending my upcoming retreat, and I mentioned to her that we’d be doing some belly dancing to connect and liberate our feminine essence (any form of dancing is a quick, easy way to get out of our heads and into our bodies and have fun!). She commented she wasn’t much for dancing and while she didn’t say much more than that, I was pretty sure I knew why.

Click here to discover the fears that stop women from feeling free…

June 30, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Top Tip to Break Out of Your Rut

One of the reasons I love this season is because there is no shortage of opportunities to get out and have some fun. However, so many of us are stuck in the same old routine, hitting the same beaches, staying at the same hotels, and attending the same annual holiday BBQs. There’s nothing wrong with tradition – if that tradition brings you joy – but why not make this the “Summer of New Sparkling Adventures” by trying something you’ve never done before?!

Break Out of Your Summer Rut

I have a client who came to one of my workshops last summer. At the age of 50 that trip marked the first time she’d ever gotten onto a plane by herself! She’d come from a big family, married young, had kids and had never thought of going away without them. She confided that while she’d always wanted to do something for herself, she felt selfish even considering it.

A lot of women think it’s selfish to do something they want to do. They think, “I shouldn’t spend the money,” or they worry about what their families will think if they take off alone.

The truth is this: if you’re feeling a longing, an urge to do or experience something that would bring expansion, that’s God communicating to you. Telling you there’s more to life for you to experience – it’s like His personal whisper to grow, grow, GROW. When we ignore that signal, we deny ourselves the opportunity to live into our greatest potential and joy. We stop ourselves from standing more fully in our unique essence and diamond power.

New Experiences Are Always Positive

Most of us are afraid of trying new things because we worry that the experience will be a disaster, but know this, even if things go badly, you can still be proud of yourself for having the courage to do something different. Why that’s important for you to know is that any step you take outside your comfort zone builds confidence and will make you less wary of trying something new in the future.

When you open yourself to diverse experiences, you inevitably learn new things about yourself. Maybe you’ll discover that you’re not as shy as you thought you were or more adventurous or less afraid of the unknown. When you take the risk to add some variety to your life, you uncover so many beautiful flavors of your personality that lay dormant when you’re playing it safe.

For my client who had never traveled alone, attending that workshop helped her get in touch with a dream she didn’t even know she had. She was in a career that she liked but wasn’t as fulfilling as she wanted. Over the course of the weekend, she discovered that she wanted to become a coach. This was a desire that had been buried but came to the surface the more she opened up and got to know herself.

Seize the Day

Trying new things can feel very scary, especially if you’ve spent years trapped in a routine. But if you’re committed to changing your life and stepping into the best version of yourself, there’s no time to waste! Start believing that you deserve to do things; make the commitment and get out there!

What’s on your joie de vivre list? Something you dream of doing….someday…? Leave a comment below and let me know the steps you’re taking to make it happen! I can’t wait to hear!!

xo

Sherri

PS Soul Sparkle Retreat is SOLD OUT! If you missed this one and know you want this experience send us your info and we’ll put your name on the top of the list to contact for next year’s retreat!!

June 23, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Open Yourself Up to Positive Criticism

This month, we’re celebrating summer with a series of posts aimed at getting you ready to reveal your gorgeous selves to the whole wide world. I’m not just talking about how to feel good in a bikini—although for some of us, getting there is a major win! I’m talking about developing the confidence to reveal your true diamond essence so that you can live a life that sparkles with love and joy.

I know all of you out there want to live that life, and you’re certainly all deserving of it but you may not know how to get there. Here’s the thing, getting there starts with having an awareness of what’s blocking you. Most of my clients come to me because something in their life went askew and they need help figuring that out and getting a plan for how to move forward. Don’t feel bad if you haven’t figured it out on your own – to quote Les Brown, “It’s hard to see the picture when you are the one in the frame.”

Often, we’re stymied by a belief that isn’t true, a fear we’ve picked up in childhood or a protective mechanism that’s no longer serving us.

The trouble with these very common issues is that they’re often lurking just beneath our conscious awareness, driving us to behave in ways that can negatively affect our relationships and keep us from moving forward. Here’s the good news: overcoming these obstacles is simple when you are open and willing to give up the lone ranger syndrome and ask for a little help.

Click here to learn more about overcoming these obstacles.

xo

Sherri

PS. If you would like to be free of the thoughts that haunt you and hurt you, Soul Sparkle Retreat would be a great benefit for youIt’s not just the week-end, it’s what happens afterwards that changes your life completely:)

Simply click here to sign up to speak with me to see if this retreat is a good fit for you. If you are ready to shut the door on the patterns that keep you stuck book a time to chat with me – this is your moment, it will be another year till the next retreat. Give yourself the gift of getting unstuck NOW!

 

June 16, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

How to Open Up for More Fulfilling Relationships

Summer is here, which means it’s time to come out of hibernation and stand in the dazzling light of day! In my last post, Self-Love Tips for an Incredible Summer [Insert Link will do once complete], we learned some great tools to deepen acceptance around our bodies so that we can stand in our sparkling brilliance all season long. But for many of us, our bodies aren’t all that we’ve been hiding.

So many women are struggling to connect with the people in their lives, or they want to take their closest relationships deeper but don’t know where to begin. Great relationships are all about connection. The key to connection is allowing others to feel us. This means speaking straight from your heart, being vulnerable and allowing yourself to be truly known.

For competent women who are used to being in charge and in control, opening up like this can be very scary. We get so attached to the potential outcome and worry that by expressing our fears, needs, desires, and yes, even our love to another person, they will judge us, abandon us, stop loving us or think we are weak.

So, what do we do?

We attempt to control the outcome – we control what we say and how we say it, we do our best to be perfect, often hiding what we really want to say. In our attempt to orchestrate the best outcome – we not only monitor what we say, we often try to control others in the process. That rarely turns out the way we want because we are speaking from our heads instead of our hearts. When we do that, the other person can’t FEEL us and when someone can’t feel you they generally tune out or turn off! The exact opposite of what we are looking to create; deeply bonded relationships.

You Have to Feel Safe to be Vulnerable

Expressing yourself to others can be challenging at first, but with a little practice, it becomes easier. One of my clients, I’ll call Carol, had a lot of fear around opening up in her relationships, so I encouraged her to pick someone who was easy to be around, a person who she already felt safe with, and start with them.

For Carol, this person was her four-year-old grandson. It was easy for her to wrap her arms around him, gobble him up and tell him know how much she loves him. If it feels too scary to do this with a person at first, try it with a beloved pet. The goal isn’t to get a reaction, it’s just to say the words that normally get stuck in your throat.

Once my client felt comfortable expressing herself to her grandson, her next step was to share her feelings with her father. They had been at odds with each other when she was a kid, but as adults, things had shifted between them. She’d always wanted to express her appreciation and love to him, but until this point, she’d been hesitant and nervous to do so.

After a visit where she shared her heartfelt feelings Carol told me she felt light and wonderful. Her father called her when she got home and told her how much it meant to him. He even told her that he loved her, which was something he’d never done before. Carol felt a closeness like never before – she was thrilled and proud of her courage to be vulnerable.

Vulnerability is a Strength, Not a Weakness

When you allow yourself to be vulnerable, you free other people up to be vulnerable as well. For my client, she not only deepened the relationship with her father but Carol was able to bring her increased strength into a new romantic relationship – she now had the confidence to share things she would have kept hidden with a sense of ease and clarity.

Remember, you don’t have to be good at this immediately. Start by expressing yourself to someone who you know won’t judge you or be reactive. As you build your confidence, you’ll find that it becomes easier to reveal yourself, and your truth, and deepen intimacy in all of your meaningful relationships!

xo

Sherri

PS. If you would like to open your heart and be free to share your love in a way that creates meaningful relationships Soul Sparkle Retreat would be life changing for you. It’s not just the week-end, it’s what happens afterwards that changes your life completely:).

Simply click here to sign up to speak with me to see if this retreat is a good fit for you. If you are ready to heal and open your heart book a time to chat with me – this is your moment, it will be another year till the next retreat. Give yourself the gift of living with FULL SPARKLE NOW!

June 9, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  1 Comment  |  Share