Open Yourself Up to Positive Criticism

This month, we’re celebrating summer with a series of posts aimed at getting you ready to reveal your gorgeous selves to the whole wide world. I’m not just talking about how to feel good in a bikini—although for some of us, getting there is a major win! I’m talking about developing the confidence to reveal your true diamond essence so that you can live a life that sparkles with love and joy.

I know all of you out there want to live that life, and you’re certainly all deserving of it but you may not know how to get there. Here’s the thing, getting there starts with having an awareness of what’s blocking you. Most of my clients come to me because something in their life went askew and they need help figuring that out and getting a plan for how to move forward. Don’t feel bad if you haven’t figured it out on your own – to quote Les Brown, “It’s hard to see the picture when you are the one in the frame.”

Often, we’re stymied by a belief that isn’t true, a fear we’ve picked up in childhood or a protective mechanism that’s no longer serving us.

The trouble with these very common issues is that they’re often lurking just beneath our conscious awareness, driving us to behave in ways that can negatively affect our relationships and keep us from moving forward. Here’s the good news: overcoming these obstacles is simple when you are open and willing to give up the lone ranger syndrome and ask for a little help.

Click here to learn more about overcoming these obstacles.

xo

Sherri

PS. If you would like to be free of the thoughts that haunt you and hurt you, Soul Sparkle Retreat would be a great benefit for youIt’s not just the week-end, it’s what happens afterwards that changes your life completely:)

Simply click here to sign up to speak with me to see if this retreat is a good fit for you. If you are ready to shut the door on the patterns that keep you stuck book a time to chat with me – this is your moment, it will be another year till the next retreat. Give yourself the gift of getting unstuck NOW!

 

June 16, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

How to Open Up for More Fulfilling Relationships

Summer is here, which means it’s time to come out of hibernation and stand in the dazzling light of day! In my last post, Self-Love Tips for an Incredible Summer [Insert Link will do once complete], we learned some great tools to deepen acceptance around our bodies so that we can stand in our sparkling brilliance all season long. But for many of us, our bodies aren’t all that we’ve been hiding.

So many women are struggling to connect with the people in their lives, or they want to take their closest relationships deeper but don’t know where to begin. Great relationships are all about connection. The key to connection is allowing others to feel us. This means speaking straight from your heart, being vulnerable and allowing yourself to be truly known.

For competent women who are used to being in charge and in control, opening up like this can be very scary. We get so attached to the potential outcome and worry that by expressing our fears, needs, desires, and yes, even our love to another person, they will judge us, abandon us, stop loving us or think we are weak.

So, what do we do?

We attempt to control the outcome – we control what we say and how we say it, we do our best to be perfect, often hiding what we really want to say. In our attempt to orchestrate the best outcome – we not only monitor what we say, we often try to control others in the process. That rarely turns out the way we want because we are speaking from our heads instead of our hearts. When we do that, the other person can’t FEEL us and when someone can’t feel you they generally tune out or turn off! The exact opposite of what we are looking to create; deeply bonded relationships.

You Have to Feel Safe to be Vulnerable

Expressing yourself to others can be challenging at first, but with a little practice, it becomes easier. One of my clients, I’ll call Carol, had a lot of fear around opening up in her relationships, so I encouraged her to pick someone who was easy to be around, a person who she already felt safe with, and start with them.

For Carol, this person was her four-year-old grandson. It was easy for her to wrap her arms around him, gobble him up and tell him know how much she loves him. If it feels too scary to do this with a person at first, try it with a beloved pet. The goal isn’t to get a reaction, it’s just to say the words that normally get stuck in your throat.

Once my client felt comfortable expressing herself to her grandson, her next step was to share her feelings with her father. They had been at odds with each other when she was a kid, but as adults, things had shifted between them. She’d always wanted to express her appreciation and love to him, but until this point, she’d been hesitant and nervous to do so.

After a visit where she shared her heartfelt feelings Carol told me she felt light and wonderful. Her father called her when she got home and told her how much it meant to him. He even told her that he loved her, which was something he’d never done before. Carol felt a closeness like never before – she was thrilled and proud of her courage to be vulnerable.

Vulnerability is a Strength, Not a Weakness

When you allow yourself to be vulnerable, you free other people up to be vulnerable as well. For my client, she not only deepened the relationship with her father but Carol was able to bring her increased strength into a new romantic relationship – she now had the confidence to share things she would have kept hidden with a sense of ease and clarity.

Remember, you don’t have to be good at this immediately. Start by expressing yourself to someone who you know won’t judge you or be reactive. As you build your confidence, you’ll find that it becomes easier to reveal yourself, and your truth, and deepen intimacy in all of your meaningful relationships!

xo

Sherri

PS. If you would like to open your heart and be free to share your love in a way that creates meaningful relationships Soul Sparkle Retreat would be life changing for you. It’s not just the week-end, it’s what happens afterwards that changes your life completely:).

Simply click here to sign up to speak with me to see if this retreat is a good fit for you. If you are ready to heal and open your heart book a time to chat with me – this is your moment, it will be another year till the next retreat. Give yourself the gift of living with FULL SPARKLE NOW!

June 9, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  1 Comment  |  Share

Self-Love Tips for an Incredible Summer

Summer is just around the corner, ladies, and I think you know what that means: longer days, more time outside, and significantly less clothing! This month, in celebration of the season that has us baring more of our bodies and heading outdoors, we’re going to focus on helping you to reveal — and revel in — your true sparkling essence!

To get started, I want to look at this idea of revelation in its most literal form. When temperatures begin to climb, we’re forced to reveal parts of ourselves that we’ve been covering up all winter. The thought of putting on a bathing suit in public can make even the most confident woman feel vulnerable, and send her off in search of the latest fad diet. As a matter of fact did you know that 91% of women hate their bodies?

I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be this way! It is possible for you to believe, deep down, that you’re gorgeous just the way you are.

CLICK HERE for a fun way to change the way you think about your body.

xo

Sherri

PS. If you would like to be free of the thoughts that haunt you and hurt you, Soul Sparkle Retreat would be a great benefit for you. It’s not just the week-end, it’s what happens afterwards that changes your life completely:)

Simply click here to sign up to speak with me to see if this retreat is a good fit for you. If you are ready to shut the door on the patterns that keep you stuck book a time to chat with me – this is your moment, it will be another year till the next retreat. Give yourself the gift of getting unstuck NOW!

June 2, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Overcome Distractions with These Helpful Tips

This month, we’re celebrating spring with a series of posts aimed at helping you clear space, get healthy and achieve your heart’s desire. I know every one of you reading this is capable of great things! I also know – from years of coaching – that every woman encounters distractions on the path to success. It’s inevitable.

Do you want to know the secret to what separates the clients who succeed and the ones who have a much harder time achieving positive results?

It’s actually quite simple. The successful ones get back on track quickly by refocusing on their original goals. This is crucial! Whatever our intention we must support it with our attention because whatever we put our attention on grows. Mama mia!! You can see why we want to be very aware of our thoughts and actions – making sure that they support our intention. Otherwise it can be a slippery slope of disappointment and frustration.

So if you find yourself struggling to make the changes you’d looooove to make in your health, relationships or career, know you are not alone. Many of us unwittingly allow some common distractions to get in our way.

And while numerous factors can cause us to lose focus, I’ve identified three major dream destroyers that seem to pop up for everyone at some point or another.

CLICK HERE to take a look – which of these is robbing you of your focus?

xo

Sherri

PS. If you would like the freedom to move towards what you desire without the stealth committee dive bombing your mind with self-doubt, comparison and blah thoughts the Soul Sparkle Retreat would be a great next step for you.

May 26, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Is Clutter Stealing Your Sparkle?

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Ever look around your home and think, YIKES? Piles of junk mail, old clothes and other items from your past strewn everywhere as well as cluttered closets! Ugh! Why, you wonder, is it so difficult to throw stuff out and keep things organized? Never fear, my dear, because spring is here! This season is all about throwing open the windows, clearing the past and making space for new energy, people, and opportunities.

Research shows the health of your environment is a reflection of your overall health and well-being. A 2010 study from the University of California found that mothers who described their living environments as cluttered suffered from higher cortisol levels, greater feelings of depression and lower marital satisfaction than those women who described their homes as “restorative” and relaxed.

So, if you’ve been finding it difficult to feel balanced or be able to drop down and focus on your dreams and aspirations, de-cluttering might be the first step to getting back on track.

Why Do We Let Clutter Take Over Our Lives?

We’re all busy with career, family and social obligations so it makes sense that from time to time, we might get behind on sorting the mail, organizing those receipts or making the bed every morning. However, for some people, clutter can become a cover-up for more deeply rooted fears and subconscious beliefs.

In addition, if you’re struggling with clutter, it can feel overwhelming, right? And that can block you from seeing possible emotional components underlying your need to hold onto things. As an example, one of my clients, Sally, had a stack of family photos that she wanted to put into albums. Despite not working and having plenty of time to take on the project she couldn’t motivate herself to get started and kept procrastinating.

In my recent post, 4 Ways to Break Bad Habitswe looked at how many of us are unconsciously committed to beliefs that restrict our growth. In the case of Sally, we discovered that she was raised with the belief that she didn’t deserve love. Well, as you can imagine, that made putting family albums together with her loving children nearly impossible for her. It was in total conflict with her underlying belief about love.

In my years of working as a coach, I’ve found that one of the most common limiting beliefs women carry is that they don’t deserve love. But I’m here to tell you that you do! In the case with Sally, after making that discovery and then healing, reframing and installing a new supportive belief that she did deserve love, she was able to put those albums together in less than a week.

So as much as you may desire to de-clutter your space, you may be spinning in overwhelm and have a subconscious belief that’s keeping you stuck and not knowing where to begin.

You may want to spend some time thinking/reflecting on what’s got you keeping things so cluttered up OR you can simply start a new habit by heeding the following tips.

Set Yourself Free with These Easy Decluttering Tips

So here are a few tips on how to get started right now.

  • Set a timer for ten minutes. This is a very powerful tool psychologically. When you look at your piles and think it’s going to take you hours to make a dent you often do nothing. Day after day of that avoidance is deadly to your psyche and can propel you into feeling bad about yourself. On the other hand, most people have 10 minutes. Once you get started, you may discover that you want to go longer than ten minutes and that’s fine, but you don’t have to. Ten minutes a day adds up to more than an hour a week! Slowly but surely, you will make progress and that will make you feel good about you! Win-win!
  • Work one room at a time. Create a schedule for yourself. List all the rooms that need to be de-cluttered. Choose one room and commit to working on it till it’s done. Then move on to the next room and stay with it till that’s done and so on and so forth. You will see progress more easily when you stay with one space rather than try to do a little bit in several different area’s.This will increase your sense of accomplishment and pride and emotional well-being.
  • Start with your car. Cars become receptacles for everything from loose change to receipts to travel mugs and more. Starting with your car can be great because it’s a relatively small space and you can easily see how you’re making progress as you go. Many of us spend a great deal of time in our car – especially if living in a metropolis. Having a clean car gives a spacious feeling and allows for more creative thoughts and peace of mind – especially important for those of us living in highly trafficked cities.
  • Keep it positive. To avoid overwhelm, create some positive beliefs and repeat them to yourself as you work. Saying things like, “I love the freedom I feel when my space is clean and organized,” or “I love the harmony and balance I am creating with this new spaciousness”. Saying these type of statements will lift your spirits and give you renewed energy and vibrancy – not to mention keeping you motivated!!

By taking small steps towards creating a clutter-free space, you will build confidence, feel less stress and communicate to the world that you’re ready to be your most sparkling, expansive self.

Sparkling love,

Sherri

P.S. If you would like to clear the clutter in your body, mind and soul, then I invite you to check out my 2018 Soul Sparkle Retreat, July 19th-22nd – at the beautiful Italian-esque Westlake Village Inn.

This exclusive retreat is limited to just 10 women. We have only ONE spot left, If you want to be one of them, CLICK HERE to sign up to speak with me!

May 19, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  Comments Off on Is Clutter Stealing Your Sparkle?  |  Share

4 Ways to Break Your Bad Habits

Spring is a fabulous time of year to take stock. And I’m not just talking about what’s in your closet – I’m talking about what’s in your heart, mind and soul!

If you’ve been struggling to make your dreams a reality, despite putting in the time and effort necessary to achieve them there may be something—a belief, an assumption or a way of viewing the world—that is holding you back from living a life that sparkles with happiness and joy.

Your Beliefs Are as Committed as You Are

You know how it feels to be committed to something, right? You are ALL in, and that’s great! If what you’re committed to is something that serves your best interests.

But what if you’re unconsciously committing to a belief that’s blocking you in some way? For example, you may have an underlying belief that you’re not good enough, that you are undeserving or unworthy of love or happiness, that other people are smarter, prettier, more capable than you are and not even realize it!

And guess what? Those limiting beliefs inspire behaviors that don’t support the results you desire. That can create a feeling of being stuck and frustrated not knowing how to move forward. Perhaps you’ve experienced repeated failure, betrayal, or abandonment. Know this: it’s not your fault. You are trapped in a vicious cycle perpetuated by bad programming.

Click here to learn 4 ways to rewire your programming.

xo

P.S. If you are DONE with those patterns that don’t serve you and desire to go deeper to rewire your brain with more supportive beliefs, I invite you to check out my 2018 Soul Sparkle Retreat, July 19th-22nd – at the beautiful Italian-esque Westlake Village Inn.

There is only ONE spot left!! If you feel a longing to be part of this life changing, transformative, exclusive retreat let’s chat – click here to book a time with me.

May 11, 2018  |  Womens Empowerment  |  No Comments  |  Share

3 Tips to Stop Triggered Behavior

Alright, ladies, May is here! We’re going to celebrate the unofficial start of summer with a series of posts aimed at sparkling vibrancy! We’re going to be clearing space, literally and figuratively, to make way for bigger and better things. I want to kick off the month by talking about one of the most common stumbling blocks to your radiance and well-being: reactive behavior.

Do you find yourself dialing a friend to vent at every twist and turn of your awful breakup, dreadful friend drama or frustrating work expectations? OK gals, I can remember going through my divorce and having diarrhea of the mouth about every foul thing my husband did – and you know what? It didn’t make me feel any better, as a matter of fact, I always felt worse. If this is sounding familiar?

I promise you; you’re not alone. Yes, I know only too well how feelings of resentment, disappointment, and depression can drive you crazy. Sitting with those feelings is hard but trust me when I tell you that complaining about how others are mistreating you will only keep you in a downward spiral and leave you feeling empty.

So, what’s a gal to do? Here are three great techniques to help you rise above your unconscious reactive behavior.

Rewrite the Story

When your peeps call and want the latest update on your cheating husband, the boss who’s been taking credit for your work, or the ex-best friend who just stabbed you in the back, instead of immediately spilling every messy detail of your situation, why not simply change the story?

Tell your friends and family that you are beginning to see the light, you are feeling pretty good about the situation, and you are expecting everything to resolve itself. Even if this is not true at the moment, continuing to say the words out loud will manifest goodwill for you and shift your feelings around the issue. Trust me, as soon as you share this new outlook, you’ll feel light and positive, and much, much happier.

Journal

This is your new best friend!! Every beautiful blank page is waiting with baited breath for you to pen your most private thoughts – without any judgment! So the next time you feel the urge to grab your cell phone and vent to the first friend who’ll pick up, grab your journal instead. In the time it takes to have a conversation you can dump your thoughts in stream of consciousness writing. This is fast and furious writing- no censoring, no judgment. Pure freedom of expression. When you are done, read it and go a step deeper. Ask yourself why you are so irritated and see what comes up. Then write about that!

Awareness is the first step to healing and will surely help you soar from the depths of despair.

Dynamic Breathing

Taking a yoga class would be ideal, but if you can’t get to one, Dynamic Breathing is the next best thing. And you can do it anywhere: car, office, home. Start by breathing in deeply through your nose – picturing white light entering your body. Then exhale through your mouth, picturing all negativity flowing out of you. Dynamic breathing is both a cleansing and centering exercise. You will feel immediate peace – able to see things with a brighter, clearer, more positive perspective.

Here is my promise: If you implement these techniques you’ll feel empowered and proud instead of empty, and I think we can both agree that’s a much better place to be!

May 5, 2018  |  Womens Empowerment  |  1 Comment  |  Share

How to let go of your painful past

Are you still haunted by your EX or maybe a partners affair? Here is the answer you have been looking for.

Spring inspires new beginnings, fresh starts and cleaning out the clutter ( that includes all those toxic no good thoughts!)….so how about letting go of past relationship problems that have been stealing your vibrancy and joy? Over the years, I have watched clients, friends and even strangers so paral\yzed by past painful memories they weren’t able to let LOVE in.…so I have a question for you?

Have you given the care of your heart to someone who is either no longer with you or doesn’t deserve that precious gift? Or maybe you are having trouble opening your heart again to a partner who violated your trust. Are you blaming yourself or him for the loss of love in your life?

If you answered yes, you are not alone. Many women are in the same boat. I too mistakenly placed responsibility for my happiness squarely on the shoulders of someone else in the past but thankfully I learned the tools to let go of the past and reclaim my heart – knowing I am in control of how I choose to feel!

Why is it important to make peace with past or troubled relationships? Simple. Now that the bond is broken,your ability to regroup and rebuild your self esteem will go much faster if you appreciate the good and the bad that your relationship brought to your life. Yes, even the BAD. That will allow you the freedom to start enjoying your life again.

If your Ex or partner behaved badly, or broke your heart you may not want to let go of the “he did me wrong” song and hey I know it hurts to be deceived and rejected but it hurts more to hang onto it. I bet you anything that you got so involved with him and his life that you have taken all the focus off your wonderful self. You are beautiful and amazing and deserve a love-filled life!It is time for YOU!

Here is a short Self Love quiz to check it out….CLICK HERE to take the quiz!

 

 

P.S. If you really long to make new friends and meet other like-minded women who, just like you, are dedicated to becoming their best most sparkling Self, then I invite you to check out my 2018 Soul Sparkle Retreat, July 19th-22nd – at the beautiful Italian-esque Westlake Village Inn.

This exclusive retreat is limited to just 10 women. I have 2 spots left, If you want to be one of them, email me today at Sherri@unleashyoursparkle.com.

April 28, 2018  |  Womens Empowerment  |  No Comments  |  Share

The Importance of Friends

Spring is a fantastic time to reconnect with your girlfriend! And I’m not talking about putting together a brunch where all you do is sit around complaining about the men in your life (or lack of) or indulging in gossip.

I’m talking about some serious, soul sister quality time where you drop down into your heart and engage in ways that inspire the release of that fabulous feel-good chemical oxytocin.

Sometimes referred to as “the love hormone,” oxytocin is released after sex, after childbirth and, when we spend time with our closest friends. It’s not surprising then that research points to longer, healthier lives for women with large social circles, while those who isolate themselves experience higher levels of stress hormones (which result in reduced well-being).

To make matters worse, isolation is a vicious cycle. If you’re already feeling lonely and depressed, you’re less likely to go out and engage with other people, which makes it that much harder to make new friends and widen your social circle.

Why Do We Lose Touch with Our Friends?
Sometimes it’s a matter of scheduling or geography. Sometimes we’re afraid of being rejected. You might think, “Oh, my friend has so much going on, I’ll just wait for her to contact me.” Then, when she doesn’t (because she’s not a mind-reader) you feel even more rejected, creating the exact scenario you were trying to avoid.

If you’re married, it’s possible that you’ve made your husband the center of your universe. But even in the closest of marriages, your husband will never fill the same space that your girlfriends do. Men are fixers. They won’t just sit there and chat with you about what’s happening.

Your girlfriends are going through the same challenges that you are—divorce, health issues, aging parents, problems with your kids, weight gain, hormones, all of it. So, prioritize your girlfriend time!

I have one group of friends that’s made it a point to get together on each of our birthdays for the last 40 years! If that’s too much of a commitment for your friend group, then plan one annual get together. It doesn’t have to be some huge trip so long as you make a point of creating something special together.

How to Reconnect If You’ve Let Those Friendships Fall Away
If you haven’t spoken to one of your friends in a while, a simple text to let her know that you miss her and would love to connect is a great way to open up the line of communication.

We often avoid reaching out because we think we’re going to need a marathon phone call to fill each other in on everything that’s been happening but that’s really not true. Five minutes is better than nothing, trust me. Let your friend know up front you only have a few minutes but wanted to connect and you’ll be amazed how uplifted, warm and yummy you’ll both feel with that short chat.

Ways to Build Your Social Circle
If you’re someone who has a hard time making friends or if you’ve lost touch with old friends and are trying to rebuild your social circle, here are some easy ways to get started:

Join a women’s business networking group
Find a women’s group at your church
Take a class at your local community center
Sign up for a weekend yoga retreat or workshop
If deeply connected friendship is important to you then make the commitment today to either reach out to one of your soul sisters OR spread your wings and do something different to meet a new friend.

Life is meant to be shared and enjoyed so don’t delay, connect NOW!!!

P.S. If you really long to make new friends and meet other like-minded women who, just like you, are dedicated to becoming their best most sparkling Self, then I invite you to check out my 2018 Soul Sparkle Retreat, July 19th-22nd – at the beautiful Italian-esque Westlake Village Inn.

This exclusive retreat is limited to just 10 women. I have 2 spots left, If you want to be one of them, email me today at Sherri@unleashyoursparkle.com.

April 21, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Connecting to Your Diamond Power

If you’ve been reading my blog recently, you know that I took an absolutely magical trip to Egypt last month. In my post, Lessons Learned in EgyptI described my experience in the King’s Chamber of the Great Pyramid. But I didn’t tell you everything. While inside that sacred space, I had a powerful vision.

After a restless start to the meditation, I reminded myself to focus on my breath and that began my journey inward and upward. Within minutes of deep focused breathing I found myself rising into a different state of consciousness and suddenly I saw a beautiful Ankh right in my heart center. Often referred to as “the key of life,” the Ankh is one of the most well-known symbols from Ancient Egypt. It looks like a cross but with a loop at the top. In fact, the Ankh is also known by the name “Crux Ansata,” which means “cross with a handle!”

Now remember, I was in that tomb in total darkness. This was an “inner vision” of this powerful symbol. It was both an experience of seeing and feeling it inside my heart. Then suddenly, as if things weren’t already blissful enough, the sweetest image of Jesus appeared to me, wearing a huge smile, with arms outstretched, radiating love and joy. Within a blink of the eye He transformed into the most beautiful stream of brilliant white light and flowed fully and wholly into that Ankh, into my heart, and I was at peace.

What a powerful message and experience – understanding how we connect to our Diamond Power! CLICK HERE to learn more about how to find peace by connecting with your Diamond Power!

April 6, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share