7 Steps to Forgiveness

Forgiveness…is one of those practices that is easier said than done…would you agree?

Ever wonder why forgiving is such a tough thing to do, especially when we most likely know that forgiveness puts us on the road to more love and freedom?

Primarily, it’s because many of us equate forgiveness with allowing or letting someone off the hook for wrongdoing. We think that by forgiving someone, we’re saying that what they did was okay.

Forgiveness can look like we’re condoning the other person’s behavior. It’s easy to get caught up in the thought, “Why should I forgive? What was done to me was wrong/horrible/unforgivable! He/she doesn’t deserve my forgiveness.”

And I get it, I was in that space when I was married and discovered my husband was cheating. But here’s the thing – forgiveness is more about YOU than the other person.

Leading prosperity expert, Catherine Ponder, has a great quote supporting this truth,

“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.”

So, in actuality, when we are able to forgive, we release ourselves from the bondage of the anger, hurt, resentment and possibly deep-seated pain we carry inside. Those feelings can keep us stuck and unable to move forward in our lives. For instance, if a past relationship caused you tremendous pain, you may be unconsciously sabotaging potential new relationships because you’re emotionally unavailable as you try to protect yourself against further hurt. By not being able to release and let go of what happened in the past, you keep yourself closed off from the love, joy and happiness you most desire.

How can you move on without believing you’re condoning what’s happened in the past?

Well, first, when you forgive someone, it doesn’t mean you have to continue to have a relationship with them. In fact, you never have to speak to them again-ever! It also doesn’t mean that when you say the words, “I forgive,” all is erased as if it never happened.

What is important to do, however, is to see the hurt you’ve experienced in a new light. It means connecting to and expanding that part of you that has never been hurt or harmed and can never be anything less than all-that-is. It means taking your past hurt to a new place…maybe even seeing the light AND the flaws in those that have “done you wrong,” with a measure of compassion for them.

This is not easy nor is it quick. And it does not mean you ever allow this to happen to you again. To be able to truly move on, it can be extremely helpful to follow a process that allows you to arrive at a place of forgiveness. Here are seven steps you might follow to get there:

  1. Look at the hurt you have not been able to forgive up to now.
  2. Identify and allow yourself to feel your feelings about that hurt. Is there anger or resentment there? Is there fear, shame, guilt, embarrassment, or some other feeling connected to your hurt?
  3. Imagine how your life could be if you released this hurt and all the feelings related to it. Visualize the joy, excitement and happiness you will experience.
  4. Now here’s the biggest step! Declare that you are ready to let the hurt go. Yes, make a declaration. “I, _____, am ready to release this hurt and the feelings I have experienced along with it!”
  5. Do it! Release it! Let it go! Forgive the person, including yourself, for what you went through. You can do this quietly to yourself, with a trusted friend or coach or by expressing it directly to the individual you want to release. You can also put their name in a balloon and send it up to the heavens asking God to help you forgive.
  6. Feel the freedom and exhilaration of all that is now possible in your life. Know that anything and everything is possible. Feel it. Believe it.
  7. Go for it! Take the first steps into the love and freedom you now have to create new relationships built on trust and mutual respect.

The result of forgiveness is that you now have a new perception and are not emotionally tied to the person. You’ve opened your heart, created peace, and are allowing natural feelings of affection and love to flow towards yourself and others. And from that new place of expansion comes abundance, happiness and a GREAT life. So, go for the good life. You deserve it!

Sparkling love,

Sherri

November 17, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

9 Steps to Setting Successful Boundaries

Here’s an important question for you…..

Do you say no when you need or want to say no? Or do you find yourself caving to everyone’s requests and demands and then feeling exhausted and resentful?

Are you the life support system to everyone around you? Be it your kids, your boss, your partner, your friends – letting all of them run you? If so you are definitely not alone lovely!

If this is you, It’s time to learn how to set some boundaries beautiful – and take back your power!

Perhaps you’re a perfectionist, people-pleaser or hard on yourself – and if that’s the case, you are going to have to stretch yourself a bit because it may feel uncomfortable at first. However, it will absolutely lead you to a happier, healthier life of emotional freedom.

You may also be like a lot of the people I work with (myself included) and want microwave results. I totally get it, once you decide you want change you want to see instant results. Here’s the thing about that – there is no such thing as instant boundaries – it’s a process. Performance and emotional research has found there is a process of steps involved that bring us this growth. It doesn’t happen overnight.

If you’re a gardener you know you can’t make flowers grow overnight – you have to plant the seed, water, nurture and wait – it takes a season. The same is true with any new behavior you want to adopt or any change you want to make. You have to have a season mentality.

You might be thinking, how do you even set a boundary? Maybe it feels scary or daunting. Well good news doll – there are defined steps you can take to help you start setting your boundaries now and I am thrilled to share them with you!

Let’s take a look at them now so you can start to create a healthier life with more ease and grace!

Click here to learn 9 steps to create healthy boundaries

November 10, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Are You Doing These 5 Things?

Last week we talked about solutions and reflections on being blind-sided in a relationship. You read my 7 “takes-two-to-tango” behaviors that created crumbs and added to the demise of my marriage. Many of you emailed sharing your light bulb moments and how these realizations had changed your perspective on your relationships. Receiving your messages brought such joy to my heart I want you to know I am celebrating YOU and looooove hearing about your growth!

Speaking of growth, let’s dig into another layer. Are you in? Remember, love, peace and freedom are on the other side!

Good for you if you are still reading! That means you understand if you want to get different results in your life you have to look within – in all area’s of your life.

So let’s start excavating!

If you related to my manly man habits of being “the fixer”, “the planner”, “the glue” or copped to being controlling or without boundaries, we want to look at what’s under those behaviors…in other words, what’s the motivation?

If you’re anything like me (and the thousands of women I’ve talked to), you might be surprised to discover there’s a worthiness issue swishing around in the sub terrain of your mind (AKA subconscious). Now, many of you might be thinking, “oh no, that’s not me at all, I know I’m bright and successful.” And maybe it isn’t…but what if it is, and you just aren’t aware of how it’s showing up?

Believe me, if anyone had told me I had self-esteem issues when I was married I would have told them they were crazy. My career was going gangbusters, and I was very confident in my ability to achieve success. However, I mistakenly believed I held that same level of confidence in my personal life.

The truth is what was happening at home would not have been happening if I really valued myself. What I realized, in my digging, was that I felt I had to prove myself, my worth, my value in order to be loved – and I did this by being the savior. I did not understand that I, like YOU, are inherently worthy without having to do ANYTHING to prove it. You are valuable by the very fact that you are a child of God. Period. Case closed.

Another way low self-esteem shows up is by not setting boundaries or enforcing the ones you do set and that was certainly true in my marriage. Simply turning a blind eye and letting things slide because of the fear he’d leave; not believing that I deserved better, not honoring my Self and my needs – all stemmed from a lack of worth. Sound familiar?

Take a minute to reflect on your own behaviors – where is your motivation coming from? If you’re a controller is it because it gives you a sense of safety? Does fixing the problems and situations give you a feeling of importance? Are you afraid of losing love if you set firm boundaries? Do you avoid conflict to honor the other persons needs instead of your own because you think they are more important than yours or that it’s selfish to ask for your needs to be met?

Be honest with yourself.

Understanding why you do the things you do is extremely important in getting to the other side. Once you are aware you can release and re-pattern with positive supportive beliefs that celebrate your value. The way to get long lasting sustainable results is to go below the surface – into the depths of your subconscious – admittedly not always easy on your own. Why? It’s difficult to see your own stuff. Ask a good friend to help you identify your patterns – they’ll know 🙂

Did you know 95% of our behavior is driven by our subconscious beliefs? We aren’t even aware of most of them!!! It’s like we’re on autopilot – only consciously acting 5% of the time – that’s like one hour a day, or less! No wonder we keep finding ourselves in the same situations over and over again.

So, I have a Self Esteem Challenge for you: over the next seven days notice the behaviors that are not giving you the results you desire.

Take time to dig deep for the motivation and ask yourself these five questions:

  1. What result would I like instead?
  2. What beliefs will I have to give up to achieve this?
  3. What beliefs will I need to create and lean into to achieve this?
  4. What can I do to honor my inherent worth?
  5. What action step can I take today to increase my self-esteem and feel better about myself?

If you are tired of feeling disrespected and being treated poorly it’s time to look within. We teach people how to treat us by how we treat ourselves – so start treating yourself with love, honor and respect. And never forget, you are as valuable and beautiful as a diamond!

xo,

Sherri

November 3, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

What to Do When You’re Blindsided in a Relationship

This is for all you ladies who have ever found yourself in a situation with a partner where things have suddenly changed, make no sense and you feel confused and uncomfortably disconnected. He says he loves you but he’s not in love with you anymore and needs some space…away from you. Ugghhhh – like daggers to the heart.

You’re totally taken by surprise because you are certain you’ve done everything right and everything was fine up until this “out of the blue” blow blindsided you.

You tell your friends and family and they’re shocked because you had this “seemingly” great relationship and it’s everyone’s opinion, including yours, that this is clearly all about HIS issues. It’s obvious this has nothing to do with you and so you sit and wait, and wait, and wait (feeling very dis-empowered and frustrated) for him to figure things out and change.

Have you ever been there? Or maybe it’s happening now? If you are still reading, I’m guessing it has, and it’s no fun. Trust me I know because it happened to me and over the last decade I’ve spoken to thousands of women who this has happened to too. Without question, it’s heartbreaking.

Some of you may be shocked by what you’re about to read next…

Click here to discover why things went wrong…

xo

Sherri

October 27, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Secrets to Successful Makeovers

Do you ever feel like your life needs a make-over or something to reconnect you to your fabulous vibrant, confident, fun-filled self?

When I was married and discovered my husband was leading a double life with another woman – I remember feeling like a blow up doll whose plug got pulled. All life left my body…It was devastating. Heart-breaking. Shocking.

Although the divorce was painful it was even more painful to realize I had lost myself and my fun feminine spirit…I felt so lost. I needed a bridge to a new life – a makeover…and so it began!

My journey was (and still is) amazing – giving me the passion and the reason for my business and mission today – helping women discover their inner sparkle, believe in their magnificence, connect with their fun, sensual, feminine self, and overcome the limiting beliefs that keep them from the loving relationship and life they desire.

There was a point in my makeover that I had a profound realization-it was successful because of all the wonderful guidance, support and inspiration I received and invested in along the way.

You deserve the same opportunity and that’s why I’m opening my calendar today and tomorrow, to be of the best service I can be to you (for FREE). It’s important to me to help other women going through a big life change or wanting to make a leap but not knowing how or where to begin.

We all need help – so if you find yourself feeling stuck, stagnant, or saying to yourself, “something’s gotta give,” click here to book a chat with me, it would be an honor to share what I’ve learned. This conversation will give you the steps you need to create the life you crave:))

To wonderful sparkling new you,

Sparkling love,

Sherri

October 20, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

4 Tips to Bliss!

Last week I fulfilled one of my bucket list dreams – hiking the Grand Canyon Rim to Rim! Wow what an amazing experience! We started on the North Kaibab Trail at 4am with nothing but our headlamps lighting the way. After a challenging 14 miles downhill we arrived at Phantom Ranch where we caught our breath for a day and had a chance to rest our wobbly and sore muscles! Then we climbed up Bright Angel Trail for 10 miles ( the last 3-4 miles being steep, steep, did I say steeeeeeeeeep, switchbacks!) Oy!!!!!

Whoohooo was I ever elated to reach the top of the south rim!! It was sure a sweet moment and one that will always make my heart smile. But believe you me, reaching this dream wasn’t always easy! There were challenges and times I wanted to quit and that’s what I want to talk to you about today.

YOU most likely have a dream or something really significant that you would love to see happen in your life. And what I learned and want to share with you is this; set yourself up with a highly developed mindset for success. It’s crucial to keep the end result in the forefront of your mind! Staying in a high vibration will help you stay connected to the completion of your dream.

That said, today, we focus on how you can develop mindfulness around your vibrational energy – one of my favorite topics – by making small changes in your daily life.

When you allow your energy to be at a high vibration, you become like that gorgeous diamond in the window at Tiffany: bright, beautiful and absolutely magnetic! Unfortunately, too many of us are walking around day-to-day engaging in behaviors that zap our energy and cause our vibration to plummet – taking us away from our dreams. The good news is that there are plenty of easy ways to get back on track.

Listen to Music

Music IS vibration! And research shows that it has a powerful effect not only on mood but perception, memory, and neuro-plasticity as well. One study from Australiaused music to help brain injury patients remember aspects of their lives that they had forgotten.

You’ll want to be aware of the types of songs you’re drawn to. If you notice you’ve got a playlist full of downers, try putting on something more positive and upbeat.

Eat the Right Foods

Are you eating foods that have a lot of junk in them? I’m not just talking about sugar and unhealthy fats but also toxins and pesticides. You may not know exactly how your food is grown or what went into processing it, but you can discern how it’s affecting you. Listen to your body after each meal. Keep a food journal. If you begin to notice that you feel low energy after eating something, then you’ll know it’s not nurturing to your mind or body. Eliminate it an start choosing foods that make you feel more energized.

Surround Yourself with High Vibrational People

If you surround yourself with people who vibrate negative or angry energy, that will begin to take a toll on you. It may not be possible for you to avoid these people outright – sometimes they’re family members – but you can start to set some boundaries around your interactions and time you spend with them.

An effective tool to use when around negativity is to put yourself in a white bubble of light and say to yourself, “Whatever is directed at me and not of the highest divine essence, bounces off and goes back to love.” Remember what Eleanor Roosevelt said: “All the water in the world can’t drown you unless you let it in.”

Think Good Thoughts

Thoughts that are unkind, punishing, or not compassionate towards yourself can dim your light very easily. One way to counter a negative thought is by imagining a stop sign in your mind. Choose to stop the thought and replace it with a more empowering one. If you’re having a hard time reframing the thought, take three deep breaths: this is known as a “pattern interrupt.”

Remember to love the part of you that’s having the thought. Be a parent to it. You wouldn’t punish your child for feeling bad, so why punish yourself? Be gentle with yourself and mindful of being kind to YOU.

When you focus on raising your vibration, you will automatically begin to tap into your charismatic and confident nature – helping you achieve whatever is on YOUR bucket list! You can do it!!!! I believe in YOU!

xo,

Sherri

September 15, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Tips to Let Go of What Other People Think about You

Last month, we began looking at charisma, that divine sparkle that makes us irresistible to others and acts as a powerful magnet to attract more love, joy, and fun into our lives! In my last post, Why You Should Stop Comparing Yourself to Others, I explained how comparing yourself can zap your self-confidence and leave you feeling disconnected from your charismatic nature. But comparison isn’t the only trap that gets us.

For many of us, the way we lose the connection to our charisma is by caring way too much about what other people think. When you get caught up in other peoples’ opinions, you abandon yourself and create an imbalance in your soul, making it impossible for your charisma to shine through.

Why Do We Care So Much About What Other People Think?

CLICK HERE to discover how to break free from this roller coaster

Sparkling Love,

Sherri

PS It’s not too late to join the Love Summit 2: Find It, Feel It and Live It Forever! Join me and 20+ experts and learn how to attract & maintain more LOVE and joy. CLICK HERE to join!

September 8, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

(Interview) Tips to a better YOU!

Do you have a burning desire for things to change in your life yet you don’t know how or where to begin? If so, you’re not alone. Many people long for more meaningful relationships, better health, more soul satisfying careers, time and money freedom yet something always seems to get in the way of successfully anchoring into these shifts.

Can you relate? Is it one distraction or delay after another creating a slow down or backslide to your dreams? Does fear or a terrified voice creep in the moment you decide to move in a new direction?

If this is you, you’re going to love this interview with my award-winning brilliant business mentor, John Boggs. In this conversation he gives us his wise life-changing success tips for leading yourself to a calm, balanced, empowered and happy life. Oh, and this isn’t only about being a leader in business it’s about being the leader of YOU.

Because he has helped me sift through “life” many a time – teaching me how to focus and prioritize with simple solutions I wanted to share him with you. He is a true master of self-leadership!

In this interview you will learn:

  • A daily practice to build self-confidence and set yourself up for success.
  • A step-by-step process to get out of toxic emotional states
  • The most common culprits that block self-leadership and how to overcome them
  • #1 secret to moving in the direction of creating a life you love

Take the time to listen to this interview – not only is John warm and authentic, he will inspire you to believe in a possibility of a better way of life PLUS give you the success tips and strategies to do it!

Happy listening!

xo,

Sherri

PS If you enjoyed this interview you will looooove the upcoming Love Summit 2 where I interview 20 extraordinary speakers about LOVE – in every aspect of your life. Click here to join us!

August 25, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

In my last article, we explored the power of charisma to attract and inspire. When you connect with your charismatic nature, you shine with a light that is irresistible to the people around you. However, sometimes we inadvertently disconnect from that light by engaging in self-defeating behaviors that dim our sparkle and leave us feeling lousy.

One way to immediately lose touch with your charisma is by comparing yourself to others. Teddy Roosevelt once said, “Comparison is the thief of joy,” and boy, was he right! When you compare, you engage in a thought pattern that wreaks havoc with your self-image and takes away your inner light like nothing else.

Click here to learn 3 tips to stop comparison.

August 11, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Tips for Connecting with Your Authentic Charisma

Last month, we explored a variety of ways you can step into your freedom and connect with your inner sparkle. When you’re tapped into that energy, you feel the light of God pouring through you, removing all the sludge that’s accumulated around your inner diamond so that your beautiful light can shine out into the world.

A few weeks ago 10 AWESOME and AMAZING women did just that at Soul Sparkle Retreat (pics above) – it was incredible and awe’ing to see them totally transform in less than 24 hours of their arrival. Intentions were made, fears released, hearts opened and deeply connected friendships born – that’s the power of immersion. I felt like a proud mama as I witnessed these lovely ladies LETTING GO of OLD haunting, hurtful beliefs and EMBRACING their vivacious, unique, feminine Divine essence to SHINE fully!. Simply stunning!

So this month, I want to celebrate that vibrant energy with a series of posts aimed at helping you do what these ladies did, connect with your natural charisma! You have it, it’s inside of you, all you have to do is bring it to the surface and let it shine like the bright August sun!

According to author and spiritual teacher, Marianne Williamson, charisma was initially a religious term meaning, “of the spirit,” or “inspired.” She writes, “Charisma is a sparkle in people that money can’t buy. It’s an invisible energy with visible effects”

Charisma Isn’t Only for Movie Stars

Too many people mistakenly believe that charisma is something only certain people have when actually, we all possess it and can cultivate it by developing a sense of ownership over our unique gifts and talents.

I have a friend who’s in her 70s, and she shines about as bright as any woman possibly could! She has this effusive energy that draws people to her like a magnet. When you’re around her, it feels like she’s been plugged into an electrical socket and is just radiating loving, bright energy in your direction.

By developing your charisma, you are:

  • Allowing your true light to shine through. When this happens, you become expansive and open. You are literally channeling your inner diamond power.
  • Opening yourself up to connect with others. When you allow yourself to be in a connected space with others, smiling and making eye contact, they feel it, and they respond to you! I’ve challenged several of my clients who feel isolated to go out, make eye contact and smile at strangers! Do this, and I promise you’ll feel an immediate mood boost!
  • Revealing your sparkling soul. When you give yourself permission to show up and freely express your unique magnificence, a lot of amazing things begin to happen! People around you have clarity about who you are and can see the purity of your soul and spirit. That openness and beauty bring out the best in them, inspiring a connection, and creating a ripple effect!

Reconnecting to Your Charisma

There are so many ways that we lose the connection to our soul essence. In my next post, we’ll explore how comparing yourself to others can cause you to lose touch with the charismatic energy that you were born to express.

Until then, the best way to begin reconnecting with your charisma is through meditation or prayer. Get silent, breathe and call to a Higher power. To assist with this, I invite you to download my free fifteen-minute Diamond Power meditation, which will guide you to a peaceful state and help you align with your beautiful soulful essence.

Sparkling love,

Sherri

August 4, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  3 Comments  |  Share