3 Steps to Your Best Year Yet!

Hallelujah it’s a brand new year lovelies! Fresh start. Big possibilities. Let’s dream!!

This month we’re going to be designing your most sparkling blueprint for the coming year – that means you’ll get a weekly article in the Sparkle community AND you’ll have the opportunity to listen to a call I’m hosting this week to help you soar into 2019!!!

So… do you have a clear vision yet for what you desire in 2019?

Could you describe it in detail right now or is it a bit fuzzy?

If you are like most people, you see bits and pieces of what you want to happen or you might be afraid to dream for fear of being disappointed, so it’s still a blank canvas.

Regardless, know that you can have the love-filled, FUN, joyful life you desire. All you have to do is get very specific about what you want and stay connected to that vision every day and voila you are making welcome the life you would love.

So, let’s get you crystal clear!! Click here to learn how…

xo,

Sherri

January 12, 2019  |  Womens Empowerment  |  No Comments  |  Share

3 Reflection Questions to Set You Up for a Fantastic 2019

Fantastic 2019Wow, are we really in the “nth” hour of 2018? Can you believe it??

You may have had a really tough year and are looking forward to saying sayyyy-onnnn-ara!!!.That’s probably true for many people. On the other hand, there is no doubt you’ve had some real gem moments that may need to be mined from the last year.

Whether you’ve had high times or low times, there is some great wisdom to be had in all of it… if you know how to look for it.

Something I like to do at the end of the year is a “real”reflection because if you are anything like me, there is a tendency to focus on what didn’t get done. Right? Mama mia that can take you right down the rabbit hole!

So today I’m sharing this year end tradition with you; it’s perfect to do right now before you get caught up in all the New Year’s Eve glitz and blitz.

This tradition I started several years ago is not only easy and fun, it helps me see all the good things that happened; clear the chaos and clutter to GET the lesson, and sets me up for a spectacular and exciting New Year.

What I’m talking about involves 3 simple questions.

  1. What did I accomplish this year? Get your planner out and spend 15 minutes looking back to remind yourself of all your wins! This includes both emotional and physical accomplishments. Maybe you stood up to your mother and set a boundary, or made a choice to eat healthy foods that nourish and make you feel energized. Maybe you ran a 10K or realized what love really means or volunteered your time. Look at every little thing that moved you forward. Write it down with pride! I like to make this a fun poster that makes my heart smile by using colorful glitter glue and rhinestone stickers. Celebrate YOU!
  2. What am I leaving behind? Look at lessons learned and ways of being that you are going to ditch. Maybe you were overly responsible and now you are going to let go of blaming yourself when things go awry. Or perhaps you are a woman of independence and you are going to let go of doing everything yourself and ask, dare I say it, for help! It could be you had unhealthy eating habits and you are going to let go of indulging to fill a void and bring in some new empowering behaviors. Possibly you have a closet full of clothes yet you wear the same 5 outfits over and over again and know it’s time to heave-ho ( yes that includes that little black dress you wore with the one you thought was “the one” and your heart sinks every time you look at it- get it out!). You are becoming the leading lady of your life!!! Hallelujah to that sister!
  3. What would I love in 2019? Get yourself a calendar, some colorful pens and use your imagination to create a life of passion! Start by thinking of all the things that you would love to do and fill in your calendar for the whole year. Decide when and how many vacations you want to take; how many fun days a month will you give yourself? Are there retreats or training’s you’d like to attend for physical, spiritual or mind blowing expansion? Make sure to include a bucket list item or two or three LOL. Taking control of how you spend your time will create a much more balanced and happy life.

As Margaret Wheatley said, 

“Without reflection, we go blindly on our way, creating more unintended consequences, and failing to achieve anything useful.”

Answering the above 3 questions will make you feel lighter and as you feel lighter you’ll begin to feel more energized and open. As you feel more energized and open, you’ll step into the New Year with more confidence.

It’s time to make a change! Gather your gumption and give this a go! You’ll be glad you did!

I would love to hear about your reflections!

Leave a comment below and let me know:

1 thing you did this year that you are proud of…

~ or ~

1 thing you are letting go of…

~ or ~

1 fun thing you are adding to your 2019 calendar…

xoxo

Sparkling love,

Sherri

PS – I’m cooking up a call that will bring you magic in 2019!! Stay tuned and eyes peeled – it’s happening end of the month:))

December 29, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Great Way to Raise Your Holiday Love Vibe

In my last post, I wrote about how choosing to give – whether it’s a physical gift, or simply the gift of your smile, time or attention – can powerfully raise your vibration.

It can be tough to live in a “feel good state” during the holidays, when so many people are actually feeling sad, downtrodden, perhaps lonely or just uninspired. Are you challenged to feel happy with where you are at this time of year?

Today, I’d like to share an exercise with you that will certainly lift your spirits and help shift you into a “I welcome more love into my life” kinda space this holiday season.

Click here to learn more….

xoxo

Sparkling love,

December 15, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

A Magical Way to Beat the Holiday Blues

We’re supposed to believe that the holiday season is the “most wonderful time of the year,” but for many people, November and December can be the hardest time of year.

If you’ve been feeling down, lonely, depressed or generally just “blah” this month, you’re not alone! And if you’re going through tough times, I’ve got the perfect remedy for you.

This holiday season, you can say sayonara to sadness and raise your vibration and your spirits by focusing on this one thing. You can turn bad feelings into beautiful ones this season if you include this into your day

What’s the perfect remedy for beating the holiday blues? It’s actually simple and doesn’t have to cost a dime…

All you have to do is look around and notice where you can give to someone else.

Raise Your Vibration by Giving Back

Ever noticed how warm and fuzzy you feel inside after doing a good deed? That’s the vibration of love at work, and it feels ah-mazing!

One of my clients, Vanessa*, was recently struggling to get along with her sister. To her, it seemed like every time they got together, her sister would make a snide comment or try to make her feel bad.

I guided Vanessa to shift the energy away from frustration and toward love. “Whenever you feel triggered,” I told her, “take a deep breath and bless your sister silently. When you do this it takes the personal sting away and puts you in a compassionate space. This energy shift will help you see a difference in your dynamic.”

She tried it, and told me a few days later that it worked beautifully!

Subtle shifts can be tremendously impactful. We think that if we don’t say anything about how we feel, nobody knows – but our energy extends far beyond our bodies. When we feel angry, hurt or annoyed, it flows out.

In the same way, when we feel grateful, loving and generous, it radiates into our energetic field.

This doesn’t mean that giving is always easy. It wasn’t exactly a walk in the park for Vanessa to hear her sister’s nasty comments and then respond by silently blessing her! But true love asks that you give back… even when it’s difficult. It’s choosing to walk the path of compassion rather than the path of ego, and recognizing the other person for the beautiful, shining spirit that they are, underneath the personalities, fears and shortcomings.

Wouldn’t you want others to do the same for you?

Giving is an Act of Love

In my book, I say that “love” has 4 letters: G-I-V-E. Giving from your heart is the best investment you can make in yourself, your life, your relationships and the people around you.

The beautiful thing about giving is that there are infinite ways to give; you can offer a blessing (like the client in the example I cited above), you can volunteer, you can offer your time, money, or just simply offer a smile to someone passing by.

You’ll always get back way more than you’ve extended to others; giving is truly the best “feel good” investment.

My challenge for you this week is to focus on giving for seven days. When you wake up in the morning, ask yourself:

Who can I give to today?

How can I be a person of increase?

Where would my energy and gifts make the most impact today?

You can also ask God or the Universe, “Please show me where I can give today.”

This holiday season, raise your vibration and your spirits by focusing on giving back. Wherever you are on your path, know that it can be a loving and peaceful season if you’re willing to open your heart and give generously of yourself. Go on now… give giving a go!!! I think you are going to love it!

xoxo

Sparkling love,

Sherri

December 8, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

How to open your heart to love

Last week we looked at what happens when you release the hardened energy – resentment, defensiveness and anger – around your heart; in other words when we forgive. We discovered it actually creates space for love and generosity to enter the picture.

Today, we will look at dovetailing another beautiful practice to open the heart even more – gratitude. 

You might be asking, “how does gratitude tie in with forgiveness?”

Actually, pretty powerfully. Forgiveness doesn’t always happen overnight. In fact, sometimes it can take years of emotional work, sifting through the layers of the hurt, until we’re truly able to release old, hardened emotions. Little by little we get to a peaceful place.

Gratitude is a tool you can use to close the gap quicker – one I’ve found to be very successful with clients and would like to give to you too.

Click here to learn how gratitude helps with forgiveness.

 

November 24, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

7 Steps to Forgiveness

Forgiveness…is one of those practices that is easier said than done…would you agree?

Ever wonder why forgiving is such a tough thing to do, especially when we most likely know that forgiveness puts us on the road to more love and freedom?

Primarily, it’s because many of us equate forgiveness with allowing or letting someone off the hook for wrongdoing. We think that by forgiving someone, we’re saying that what they did was okay.

Forgiveness can look like we’re condoning the other person’s behavior. It’s easy to get caught up in the thought, “Why should I forgive? What was done to me was wrong/horrible/unforgivable! He/she doesn’t deserve my forgiveness.”

And I get it, I was in that space when I was married and discovered my husband was cheating. But here’s the thing – forgiveness is more about YOU than the other person.

Leading prosperity expert, Catherine Ponder, has a great quote supporting this truth,

“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.”

So, in actuality, when we are able to forgive, we release ourselves from the bondage of the anger, hurt, resentment and possibly deep-seated pain we carry inside. Those feelings can keep us stuck and unable to move forward in our lives. For instance, if a past relationship caused you tremendous pain, you may be unconsciously sabotaging potential new relationships because you’re emotionally unavailable as you try to protect yourself against further hurt. By not being able to release and let go of what happened in the past, you keep yourself closed off from the love, joy and happiness you most desire.

How can you move on without believing you’re condoning what’s happened in the past?

Well, first, when you forgive someone, it doesn’t mean you have to continue to have a relationship with them. In fact, you never have to speak to them again-ever! It also doesn’t mean that when you say the words, “I forgive,” all is erased as if it never happened.

What is important to do, however, is to see the hurt you’ve experienced in a new light. It means connecting to and expanding that part of you that has never been hurt or harmed and can never be anything less than all-that-is. It means taking your past hurt to a new place…maybe even seeing the light AND the flaws in those that have “done you wrong,” with a measure of compassion for them.

This is not easy nor is it quick. And it does not mean you ever allow this to happen to you again. To be able to truly move on, it can be extremely helpful to follow a process that allows you to arrive at a place of forgiveness. Here are seven steps you might follow to get there:

  1. Look at the hurt you have not been able to forgive up to now.
  2. Identify and allow yourself to feel your feelings about that hurt. Is there anger or resentment there? Is there fear, shame, guilt, embarrassment, or some other feeling connected to your hurt?
  3. Imagine how your life could be if you released this hurt and all the feelings related to it. Visualize the joy, excitement and happiness you will experience.
  4. Now here’s the biggest step! Declare that you are ready to let the hurt go. Yes, make a declaration. “I, _____, am ready to release this hurt and the feelings I have experienced along with it!”
  5. Do it! Release it! Let it go! Forgive the person, including yourself, for what you went through. You can do this quietly to yourself, with a trusted friend or coach or by expressing it directly to the individual you want to release. You can also put their name in a balloon and send it up to the heavens asking God to help you forgive.
  6. Feel the freedom and exhilaration of all that is now possible in your life. Know that anything and everything is possible. Feel it. Believe it.
  7. Go for it! Take the first steps into the love and freedom you now have to create new relationships built on trust and mutual respect.

The result of forgiveness is that you now have a new perception and are not emotionally tied to the person. You’ve opened your heart, created peace, and are allowing natural feelings of affection and love to flow towards yourself and others. And from that new place of expansion comes abundance, happiness and a GREAT life. So, go for the good life. You deserve it!

Sparkling love,

Sherri

November 17, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

9 Steps to Setting Successful Boundaries

Here’s an important question for you…..

Do you say no when you need or want to say no? Or do you find yourself caving to everyone’s requests and demands and then feeling exhausted and resentful?

Are you the life support system to everyone around you? Be it your kids, your boss, your partner, your friends – letting all of them run you? If so you are definitely not alone lovely!

If this is you, It’s time to learn how to set some boundaries beautiful – and take back your power!

Perhaps you’re a perfectionist, people-pleaser or hard on yourself – and if that’s the case, you are going to have to stretch yourself a bit because it may feel uncomfortable at first. However, it will absolutely lead you to a happier, healthier life of emotional freedom.

You may also be like a lot of the people I work with (myself included) and want microwave results. I totally get it, once you decide you want change you want to see instant results. Here’s the thing about that – there is no such thing as instant boundaries – it’s a process. Performance and emotional research has found there is a process of steps involved that bring us this growth. It doesn’t happen overnight.

If you’re a gardener you know you can’t make flowers grow overnight – you have to plant the seed, water, nurture and wait – it takes a season. The same is true with any new behavior you want to adopt or any change you want to make. You have to have a season mentality.

You might be thinking, how do you even set a boundary? Maybe it feels scary or daunting. Well good news doll – there are defined steps you can take to help you start setting your boundaries now and I am thrilled to share them with you!

Let’s take a look at them now so you can start to create a healthier life with more ease and grace!

Click here to learn 9 steps to create healthy boundaries

November 10, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Are You Doing These 5 Things?

Last week we talked about solutions and reflections on being blind-sided in a relationship. You read my 7 “takes-two-to-tango” behaviors that created crumbs and added to the demise of my marriage. Many of you emailed sharing your light bulb moments and how these realizations had changed your perspective on your relationships. Receiving your messages brought such joy to my heart I want you to know I am celebrating YOU and looooove hearing about your growth!

Speaking of growth, let’s dig into another layer. Are you in? Remember, love, peace and freedom are on the other side!

Good for you if you are still reading! That means you understand if you want to get different results in your life you have to look within – in all area’s of your life.

So let’s start excavating!

If you related to my manly man habits of being “the fixer”, “the planner”, “the glue” or copped to being controlling or without boundaries, we want to look at what’s under those behaviors…in other words, what’s the motivation?

If you’re anything like me (and the thousands of women I’ve talked to), you might be surprised to discover there’s a worthiness issue swishing around in the sub terrain of your mind (AKA subconscious). Now, many of you might be thinking, “oh no, that’s not me at all, I know I’m bright and successful.” And maybe it isn’t…but what if it is, and you just aren’t aware of how it’s showing up?

Believe me, if anyone had told me I had self-esteem issues when I was married I would have told them they were crazy. My career was going gangbusters, and I was very confident in my ability to achieve success. However, I mistakenly believed I held that same level of confidence in my personal life.

The truth is what was happening at home would not have been happening if I really valued myself. What I realized, in my digging, was that I felt I had to prove myself, my worth, my value in order to be loved – and I did this by being the savior. I did not understand that I, like YOU, are inherently worthy without having to do ANYTHING to prove it. You are valuable by the very fact that you are a child of God. Period. Case closed.

Another way low self-esteem shows up is by not setting boundaries or enforcing the ones you do set and that was certainly true in my marriage. Simply turning a blind eye and letting things slide because of the fear he’d leave; not believing that I deserved better, not honoring my Self and my needs – all stemmed from a lack of worth. Sound familiar?

Take a minute to reflect on your own behaviors – where is your motivation coming from? If you’re a controller is it because it gives you a sense of safety? Does fixing the problems and situations give you a feeling of importance? Are you afraid of losing love if you set firm boundaries? Do you avoid conflict to honor the other persons needs instead of your own because you think they are more important than yours or that it’s selfish to ask for your needs to be met?

Be honest with yourself.

Understanding why you do the things you do is extremely important in getting to the other side. Once you are aware you can release and re-pattern with positive supportive beliefs that celebrate your value. The way to get long lasting sustainable results is to go below the surface – into the depths of your subconscious – admittedly not always easy on your own. Why? It’s difficult to see your own stuff. Ask a good friend to help you identify your patterns – they’ll know 🙂

Did you know 95% of our behavior is driven by our subconscious beliefs? We aren’t even aware of most of them!!! It’s like we’re on autopilot – only consciously acting 5% of the time – that’s like one hour a day, or less! No wonder we keep finding ourselves in the same situations over and over again.

So, I have a Self Esteem Challenge for you: over the next seven days notice the behaviors that are not giving you the results you desire.

Take time to dig deep for the motivation and ask yourself these five questions:

  1. What result would I like instead?
  2. What beliefs will I have to give up to achieve this?
  3. What beliefs will I need to create and lean into to achieve this?
  4. What can I do to honor my inherent worth?
  5. What action step can I take today to increase my self-esteem and feel better about myself?

If you are tired of feeling disrespected and being treated poorly it’s time to look within. We teach people how to treat us by how we treat ourselves – so start treating yourself with love, honor and respect. And never forget, you are as valuable and beautiful as a diamond!

xo,

Sherri

November 3, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

What to Do When You’re Blindsided in a Relationship

This is for all you ladies who have ever found yourself in a situation with a partner where things have suddenly changed, make no sense and you feel confused and uncomfortably disconnected. He says he loves you but he’s not in love with you anymore and needs some space…away from you. Ugghhhh – like daggers to the heart.

You’re totally taken by surprise because you are certain you’ve done everything right and everything was fine up until this “out of the blue” blow blindsided you.

You tell your friends and family and they’re shocked because you had this “seemingly” great relationship and it’s everyone’s opinion, including yours, that this is clearly all about HIS issues. It’s obvious this has nothing to do with you and so you sit and wait, and wait, and wait (feeling very dis-empowered and frustrated) for him to figure things out and change.

Have you ever been there? Or maybe it’s happening now? If you are still reading, I’m guessing it has, and it’s no fun. Trust me I know because it happened to me and over the last decade I’ve spoken to thousands of women who this has happened to too. Without question, it’s heartbreaking.

Some of you may be shocked by what you’re about to read next…

Click here to discover why things went wrong…

xo

Sherri

October 27, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Secrets to Successful Makeovers

Do you ever feel like your life needs a make-over or something to reconnect you to your fabulous vibrant, confident, fun-filled self?

When I was married and discovered my husband was leading a double life with another woman – I remember feeling like a blow up doll whose plug got pulled. All life left my body…It was devastating. Heart-breaking. Shocking.

Although the divorce was painful it was even more painful to realize I had lost myself and my fun feminine spirit…I felt so lost. I needed a bridge to a new life – a makeover…and so it began!

My journey was (and still is) amazing – giving me the passion and the reason for my business and mission today – helping women discover their inner sparkle, believe in their magnificence, connect with their fun, sensual, feminine self, and overcome the limiting beliefs that keep them from the loving relationship and life they desire.

There was a point in my makeover that I had a profound realization-it was successful because of all the wonderful guidance, support and inspiration I received and invested in along the way.

You deserve the same opportunity and that’s why I’m opening my calendar today and tomorrow, to be of the best service I can be to you (for FREE). It’s important to me to help other women going through a big life change or wanting to make a leap but not knowing how or where to begin.

We all need help – so if you find yourself feeling stuck, stagnant, or saying to yourself, “something’s gotta give,” click here to book a chat with me, it would be an honor to share what I’ve learned. This conversation will give you the steps you need to create the life you crave:))

To wonderful sparkling new you,

Sparkling love,

Sherri

October 20, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share