Want to feel strong and confident in your decisions?

A beacon of strength, wisdom, and altruism, Wonder Woman has inspired women across the globe. More than ever before, we need strong female role models– exemplified by the recent box office hit, which earned more than $700 million worldwide opening weekend! W.O.W

We long to believe that the power of good will prevail over bad— which is evident with the success of this female-led super hero movie. We want to feel strong and confident in our decisions and who we are, like Wonder Woman, right?

However, let’s be honest: we’ve all had experiences and situations in our lives where we’ve gotten hurt and then, without even realizing it, set up Fort Knox to protect our hearts. At the time that may have served us well and kept us feeling safe, but if we really want love, we’ve got to have the courage to knock down those walls and let the old stories go.

So, how can we be the heroine of our own life?

Click here to find out how….

August 3, 2017  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Self-love assessment

If you are like most of the women I have the privilege of talking to and working with you have the same common longing: the desire to experience romantic love at a very deep level (whether you are single or in a relationship).  

And truthfully, YOU, just as much as anybody on the planet, deserves to be adored and cherished.

Why then, you might be asking, is this coveted experience so elusive?!  

You’re probably super smart and taking a lot of steps that you think should lead you to that relationship – but the results are repeatedly disappointing with little or no movement forward. And that makes you even more frustrated! Sound familiar?

There is a solution – and it might surprise you. 

Are you ready? Here it is…. Loving relationships with others really hinge on building a loving relationship with yourself first. This is tricky because many of us think we are treating ourselves well. If you feel really solid in this, AWESOME but, on the other hand, if you have a little bit of wobble, there’s a quick self-assessment you can take in the video below.

Listen to the video above and answer the 4 questions asked to assess how well you are loving yourself:))

Here’s a bonus action step to create more self-love – MIRROR WORK–this is very powerful and a great way to build self-love from the inside out.

Look in the mirror and say:

I love you.
I’m proud of you.
You are special to me.
I am here for you.
Do this in the morning and at night PLUS the action steps from the video and you will soon increase your confidence, self-love and become your sparkling best Self! All essential for creating love in every aspect of your life.
July 27, 2017  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Do these sabotaging emotions steal your love?

How often do you do something for or with others because it just doesn’t feel right to focus on yourself? Do you ever feel ashamed because there are times you just don’t want to do one more thing for anybody else? Are you trapped in a cycle of doing, doing, doing for everyone but yourself?

In the spirit of Independence Day, let’s take a look at three emotional thieves that steal our mental freedom and block our love of Self. They wreak havoc with our serenity, self-worth, and keep us from living full, authentic, and sparkling lives:

  • Guilt
  • Selfishness
  • Shame

Many women wrestle with these three feelings and their associated limiting beliefs.

How would you like to be liberated from the behavior you’ve been trained in to always put others’ needs before your own?

Click here to discover how we can begin to free our minds from the entrapment of these three emotional bandits.

July 13, 2017  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

(Interview) How to take control of your life

Do you ever feel like your life is spinning out of control with relationship challenges, career demands and the pressure of being a “good” parent/wife/daughter/sister/friend? Does it seem like you are always behind the 8 ball without enough time to take care of everything on your plate?

If you have a burning desire for things to change in your life you’re going to love this interview with my award-winning brilliant business mentor, John Boggs. In this conversation he gives us his wise life-changing success tips for leading yourself to a calm, balanced, empowered and happy life. Oh, and this isn’t only about being a leader in business it’s about being the leader of YOU.

Because he has helped me sift through “life” many a time – teaching me how to focus and prioritize with simple solutions I wanted to share him with you. He is a true master of self-leadership!

In this interview you will learn:

  • A daily practice to build self-confidence and set yourself up for success.
  • A step-by-step process to get out of toxic emotional states
  • The most common culprits that block self-leadership and how to overcome them
  • #1 secret to moving in the direction of creating a life you love
  • How to measure if you’re leading yourself well

Take the time to listen to this interview – not only is John warm and authentic, he will inspire you to believe in a possibility of a better way of life PLUS give you the success tips and strategies to do it!

Happy listening!

June 28, 2017  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Are you ready to rock a bikini?

It’s summer and you know what that means – bikini time! Whether it’s a poolside bbq, beach party with the kids and friends or water vacation you’re probably going to be slipping into some sort of swim suit even if you’re not into baring your belly. 

So how are you feeling about that? Comfortable? Or are you body bashful?

If you’re anything like most of the women out there, the thought of parading around with less coverage can bring up some anxious thoughts.

Staying body-positive throughout the summer months can sometimes prove challenging for even the most confident woman. Women of all shapes and sizes have struggled with insecurities. Whether you choose to wear a bikini or not, feeling body-positive at every age and shape is beautiful.  For example my client Peggy, aged 59, recently announced: “I wore a bikini on my vacation and rocked it!” She would never have said this a year ago – but with all the inner self-love work we’ve been doing she’s now fully confident and in love with her body. The same is possible for you!

Here are my tips on how to create a positive body image:

Evaluate your beliefs: 

We are told which traits are considered desirable in film, advertising, and the media. In America, I think of a tall, toned, slender but curvy blonde woman ( a la Christy Brinkley).  Maybe your image slightly varies from mine, but is cut from the same cloth. We are told what is beautiful and what is not. Often, it isn’t our appearance that is the problem, but our mindset.

We are bombarded with images that manipulate and alter the female form. Often, we are sold an image of “beauty” that doesn’t even exist. It’s airbrushed or digitalized.  Cliché, but, how we feel about ourselves and our core values is more important than what others think about us. We cannot control what others think about us, but we can choose the way we speak to ourselves. So ask yourself, “What negative beliefs do I have that are associated with my body?” and write them down. Next call hooey on those beliefs. Imagine taking a sword and cutting thru those beliefs with the truth. Next ask yourself, “What would I have to believe to feel better about my body?” Maybe it’s that you have legs that allow you to walk, arms that allow you to hug, a belly that protects all your female organs. Whatever those positive beliefs are write them down and read them daily till you own them. Keeping in mind that beauty radiates from the inside out. Some of the most beautiful people I have met are the kindest.

Practice awareness and release judgment:

Look in the mirror. What do you immediately focus your attention on? Identify the lies you have been told about yourself and cognitively replace these items with at least three to five qualities you love about your appearance. Repeat this step every morning. Say it aloud. Repeat this step as often as necessary throughout your day.

Please be kind to yourself because there is already too much cruelty in the world.

Reframe your thought process:

Refer back to the concept of scarcity, which is the myth or lies that we tell ourselves we will be happy when _____ , fill in the blank: “I lose ten pounds.”

Often, we are very critical of our own appearance, yet admire others for their special qualities while failing to appreciate our own.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Worried that a nose job would affect her singing voice, Barbara Streisand’s unique nose helped propel her to stardom. You could be the most beautiful woman in the world and still believe that you are ugly.

Maybe you are facing a much greater challenge in your life that is affecting the way you feel about yourself. We cannot control everything in life that happens to us, but we cannot allow our insecurities to ruin precious memories, such as a well-earned summer vacation to Hawaii. You deserve to feel beautiful in your skin. You deserve your own love. And you damn well deserve a cute bikini.


Confidence, like any skill, is developed through practice. As they say, fake it to you make it. Transformation doesn’t happen overnight and is achieved through a combination of small steps over time. Ask the universe: how can you move toward a more body-positive you? Write down ten answers. Circle the best answers. What are the steps that you can take to help you feel beautiful, healthy, and happy, always?

I encourage you to move forward in your life from a place of self-acceptance. Create a beautiful life for yourself and the rest will follow.

June 21, 2017  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

3 tips to stay connected to Love

How often do you think, I’ll be happy when__________? (fill in the blank)

If you are like most of us you might have had a few thoughts like these:

* When I have a man in my life that loves and adores me and makes me feel special (whether you’re in a relationship or single) …THEN I’ll be happy.

* When I have enough money saved to make me feel secure…THEN I’ll be happy.

* When I drop that 10 extra pounds I’ve been carrying for the past 5 years…THEN I’ll be happy.

And sometimes “when” arrives and sometimes it doesn’t. In the meantime our lives are slipping thru our fingers like the sands of time. Yikes!

What “when’s” do you have in your life? Think about it for a minute and write them down.

Are you tying your happiness to a condition?

Don’t feel bad if the answer is yes, most of us do! Myself included.

When I was younger, from the time I was 15-28, my weight was a huge struggle. I was forever trying to say sayonara to an extra 25-40 pounds  (and trust me on a 5’3” small boned frame, that was significant!). I dreamed of stepping on a scale, peering down and seeing the dial stop at 110 lbs.…ahhh THEN I would be happy, thrilled…ecstatic!!!

Suffice it to say I went on countless diets to get me there including a week of eating nothing but German chocolate cake (did I mention they were mostly unhealthy? Geeeez!). Every morning when I woke up I would run to the bathroom, step on the scale and if that reflecting number wasn’t inching it’s way down toward my goal weight I would instantly slump into a bad mood. In a split second I would go from anticipation to anger and frustration letting the number on the scale affect my whole day.

I was totally postponing my happiness; making it conditional. I wanted out of that vortex but I didn’t know what to do to end the mindset that was creating the disconnect to happiness.

Until one day I discovered the secret. I understood how to bypass the condition and stay in that joyful, happy state no matter what!

Click here to discover how to lasso happiness…

June 14, 2017  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Is this missing in your relationship?

When was the last time you experienced romance in your relationship? If you and your man are like the majority of couples, you’re experiencing a romantic rut. Let’s face it, doing the same things over and over again can become a bit boring. The same old routine can leave you feeling like there’s something missing. And truth be told, there is something missing—your creative passionate expression!

There are so many different facets to who you are as a sensual woman, once you discover and unleash them into your life and relationship you will feel energized, empowered, ultra- feminine and happier.

How do I bring back the spark?

A fun way to rekindle your relationship is with a Romance-Capade. These are themed adventures I created years ago and presented at romance parties for women who wanted to spice up their love lives and deepen intimacy with their partners. You can easily bring back those heady days of dating and heat things up again by mixing it up, playfully rediscovering each other and remembering why you fell in love in the first place…

If it’s been a while since you and your man have gotten cozy, you may want to start slow with something that feels comfortable yet stretches you a wee bit. Bring Back the Spark fits this perfectly and will help you get things rolling.

Bring Back the Spark Recipe for Romance” Essentials

Follow this recipe to the T or whip up your own creation by adding or substituting goodies.

Mix It Up

Simply dining in another room of your home is a great way to rev up your relationship. If you’re like most couples you’ve gotten into a romantic rut with routine. Eating dinner in the same spot day after day, with no meaningful conversation, tuning into the TV instead of each other—doesn’t exactly bring on the “tingles,” does it? To rekindle the warmth and closeness you once knew together, you’re going to have to mix things up. If this makes you nervous enlist a friend for support.

Passport to Passion Invitation

Write a sexy note inviting him to dinner and pique his curiosity by delivering your invitation in one of these ways:

  • Put it in his pocket as he’s leaving the house
  • Prop it against the coffee maker with a red rose
  • Let your imagination run wild!

How to Set the Mood for Romance

  • Lighting: candlelight
  • Music: songs that inspire happy memories
  • Location: any room other than where you currently eat dinner— weather permitting, dining on the patio can be very romantic.
  • Tease: flower petals scattered on the table and floor

Get Your Sparkle On!

  • Wardrobe ideas: soft, feminine flowing dress with pretty shoe, preferably high heels
  • Persona: “I’m excited to see you.”
  • Attitude: fun, flirty and adoring

Feed His Passion…and Yours

  • Beverage: your favorite drinks
  • Dinner: his favorite meal

Cold Feet?

Nervous? That’s perfectly normal! Take a deep breath and remind yourself why you wanted to create this romantic evening in the first place. Not only will your courage rev up your relationship and provide an opening for re-connection, it will build your confidence and make you feel vibrant and alive. That said, having a support system in place will help calm those jitters. Ask one of your girlfriends to be on standby for a last-minute phone call or text message.

You Can Do It!

Give yourself permission to see and feel the outcome you want, leaving your troubles checked at the door. With this vision in mind, create newness and excitement by setting a cozy table in front of the fireplace, in your bedroom, on the patio, or anywhere different from the norm. Be silly and lighthearted. Play music from your dating days, a favorite concert or your wedding song…dance flirtatiously. Make a pact before you sit down that the kids, in-laws and career are taboo topics. With genuine interest, get to know each other again. Rediscover the magic!


Congratulations! Whatever the outcome of your romantic evening, take the time to honor yourself for taking action. That might mean letting out a whopping wooohooo, jumping in the air, calling and sharing your adventure with a friend, treating yourself to a bouquet of flowers, sending yourself a special congratulatory card—it doesn’t matter what you do, just do something to celebrate YOU. Journal your experience—how it made you feel, what worked well, and what you might do differently next time. But most of all, love on yourself for bringing sparkle back to your life and your relationship.

What’s Next?

Now that you’ve gotten your confidence back make sure to plan your next Romance-Capade. Get out your calendar, choose a date, and circle it. Do it now! If you wait, months will fly by in a heartbeat without an encore. After rekindling your love life do you really want to let it cool again? To ensure your life and relationship stay passionately alive you’ll need consistent planning. Think about it, if you want a gorgeous garden you need to spend time nurturing it, right? Your relationship is no different. If you would like some help creating another delicious adventure you’ll find 15 themes in my book to spark your imagination and keep things fresh.

Here’s to expanding your romantic repertoire!

June 6, 2017  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

How to protect yourself from bad juju

Would you like to learn how to protect yourself from the negative people in your world?

Because let’s face it, we all know someone who’s gloom and doom, or thrives on drama, is a chronic complainer or gossips behind your back and if we’re not careful we can get sucked into the undertow.

This can be especially challenging if it’s a loved one, parent, sibling, good friend or co-worker.

I have a client who shared she is struggling with this right now. Every conversation she has with her soon to be ex is laced with venom. After each interaction she feels herself falling down into the rabbit hole and has a hard time getting out. She gets stuck in all the nasty negativity letting it affect her work, happiness, parenting abilities and overall quality of life.

Wouldn’t you like to be Teflon to whatever is going on in your surrounding circumstances? To stay centered and happy – letting others have their experience and not letting their experience have you?

It is possible.

Eleanor Roosevelt said, “All the water in the world can’t drown you unless it gets inside.”

That’s where the bubble comes in.

Click here to learn the bubble solution

May 31, 2017  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

6 Ways to Honor YOU

Mother’s Day is still a little rough, even though my mom’s been gone for five years now I still think of her every day. But this is an extra special time to cherish and honor her memory. So I picked out some flowers I thought she would like – red being her favorite color I chose a beautiful ruby orchid plant…and a single red rose. As I laid them on the gravesite I was flooded with beautiful warm memories of all the loving things she did for me.

One memory in particular always stands out for me – it was Valentine’s Day and my husband at the time, was out of town. I was in the kitchen and heard a knock on the front door. When I answered my mom was standing there, smiling, with a plate of homemade chocolate heart shaped cupcakes frosted in pink with red sprinkles. She had driven 30 minutes to deliver her loving surprise face to face and give me a big hug. I was so touched I cried…I miss my mom a lot. She was always doing sweet things like that and it made me realize she was always thinking of others and doing very little for herself…it was lovely to be able to sit and honor her memory with so much gratitude.

And it made me think – what about you? Whether you are a mother or not, are you a good mom to you – honoring, nurturing and nourishing yourself? Or are you like my mom and so many other women, doing very little for you and putting yourself last?  

Let’s face it, we all offer ourselves and nurture others at one time or another. Some of us do it continually, taking care of other people in our lives, being present for them and serving them on a daily basis. 

Many of us set aside our own needs and desires in order to help someone else. Sometimes it’s absolutely necessary to care for someone, especially a sick friend or aging parent. At other times, we may be called upon to support a colleague who is going through emotional upheaval.

Although there is nothing wrong with giving our time, energy, love and attention to others – and there are times when it is absolutely essential that we do so – the danger is that we can care for others to the point of being off-balance in our own lives, losing our sparkle and self in the process.

How does it look when we become off-balanced, when we aren’t tending to our own needs? How does it feel when we haven’t focused on self-renewal or taken steps to revitalize and replenish ourselves? Well, imagine that you are a big, beautiful crystal pitcher filled with lemonade.

Surrounding you is a circle of glasses that want to be filled up. These glasses represent the people in your life – your mate, your kids, your boss, siblings, parents, friends, colleagues, etc. As you focus on filling up everyone’s glasses – filling and refilling them because everyone continues to want more – what happens?

Eventually, the pitcher gets emptied. There’s no more lemonade to pour into the glasses. The pitcher is depleted. Everyone around you still wants more of your wonderful, yummy lemonade, but if the pitcher is not being refilled and replenished, eventually there is nothing more for you to give. That’s what happens when you do not take the time for self-renewal.

Like the pitcher, you eventually have nothing left to offer. You’ve squeezed yourself dry. Yet, you continue to try to give. However, now what you are able to “serve up” becomes flat – it doesn’t taste sweet anymore. Even though you know you are running on empty you push yourself to pour your pitcher anyway. And those who you serve are aware – often unconsciously – that what you’re providing isn’t as good as it once was. Maybe what you now offer is laced with bitterness, resentment, frustration and even anger.

So, what can you do to refill your pitcher – to renew yourself? First, it’s vital that you understand a key concept: the most important relationship you will ever have in your life is the one you have with yourself! If that relationship is not rock solid, and full of love for yourself, you can lose your way-even lose your sense of Self-and feel isolated, separate and disconnected from everyone and everything.

Alternatively, the more you nurture your relationship with yourself, the more you are ready and able to have relationships with others and give to them – whether that’s a spouse, partner, friends or family members.

How can you renew and nurture your relationship with you? At the core must be the belief that you are valuable, that you deserve to be cared for and that you’re worth it. So, the first step is to love yourself. You must be able to see that you are worthy of love and that the most important love you’ll ever receive is the love and acceptance you give yourself. It starts with you. 

Once you acknowledge that you are important and worthy of love and self-care, you can take time to appreciate who you are and spend time refilling your pitcher. There are many ways to do this. To begin with, plan to give yourself some undivided attention. Focus on what you can do to breathe new life into your body, mind, and spirit.

Here are a just few suggestions to get you started:

  1. Soak in the tub. If you love taking baths, create a tranquil ambiance – including candles and music – and soak in scented bath salts that relax and refresh all of you.
  2. Get moving. For your body, exercise is another important component to include. Be sure to choose exercise you enjoy.
  3. Eat well. Make healthy food choices and say ‘no’ to white flour products and refined sugar.
  4. Take supplements. Visit a wellness store and get a good supplement plan in place … one you can stick with.
  5. Listen to your body. Listen to your body and take care of your needs. Eat when you’re hungry, sleep when you’re tired, get a massage, indulge in a mani-pedi and kick any destructive habits/addictions you may be using to cope, like alcohol, drugs or food abuse. Don’t be afraid to reach out for support. 
  6. Appreciate yourself. Don’t forget about the little somethings that put smiles on faces and do those things for you. Write yourself a love letter, send a note of gratitude to yourself or even have flowers delivered to you at home or at work.

Give yourself permission to show yourself some special love, attention and appreciation. Remember: it’s okay to admit that you need to be cared for as you care for others. That said, I encourage you to be a good mom to yourself. Take time this week to acknowledge and renew your relationship with yourself.

 You matter greatly!

May 17, 2017  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

How to release the past

Are you blaming yourself and feeling like a failure for relationships that have gone awry? Here is the answer you have been looking for.

Over the years, I have watched my clients, friends and even strangers take the hit for relationship problems – feeling like they weren’t enough, obsessing over past conversations and beating themselves up with thoughts like, “if only I hadn’t said that, or done that or asked that question – maybe he wouldn’t have had that affair or left.”

So hooked into their past perceived faux pas’s they are riddled with anxiety and plagued with toxic thoughts. Although they deeply desire love, they’ve safely tucked their hurting hearts behind a wall of armor.

Ahhh man…can you relate to this?

I have a question for you?

Have you given the happiness of your heart to someone who is either no longer with you or doesn’t deserve that precious gift? Are you blaming yourself for the failings of your lost love?

If you answered yes, you are not alone. Many women are in the same boat. I too mistakenly placed responsibility for my happiness squarely on the shoulders of someone else in the past but thankfully I learned the tools to reclaim my Diamond Power and today I know my value and am passionate about helping women own their sparkling worth.

Why is it important to make peace with past or troubled relationships?

Click here to discover how to let go of the past

May 10, 2017  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share