4 Ways to Break Your Bad Habits

Spring is a fabulous time of year to take stock. And I’m not just talking about what’s in your closet – I’m talking about what’s in your heart, mind and soul!

If you’ve been struggling to make your dreams a reality, despite putting in the time and effort necessary to achieve them there may be something—a belief, an assumption or a way of viewing the world—that is holding you back from living a life that sparkles with happiness and joy.

Your Beliefs Are as Committed as You Are

You know how it feels to be committed to something, right? You are ALL in, and that’s great! If what you’re committed to is something that serves your best interests.

But what if you’re unconsciously committing to a belief that’s blocking you in some way? For example, you may have an underlying belief that you’re not good enough, that you are undeserving or unworthy of love or happiness, that other people are smarter, prettier, more capable than you are and not even realize it!

And guess what? Those limiting beliefs inspire behaviors that don’t support the results you desire. That can create a feeling of being stuck and frustrated not knowing how to move forward. Perhaps you’ve experienced repeated failure, betrayal, or abandonment. Know this: it’s not your fault. You are trapped in a vicious cycle perpetuated by bad programming.

Click here to learn 4 ways to rewire your programming.

xo

P.S. If you are DONE with those patterns that don’t serve you and desire to go deeper to rewire your brain with more supportive beliefs, I invite you to check out my 2018 Soul Sparkle Retreat, July 19th-22nd – at the beautiful Italian-esque Westlake Village Inn.

There is only ONE spot left!! If you feel a longing to be part of this life changing, transformative, exclusive retreat let’s chat – click here to book a time with me.

May 11, 2018  |  Womens Empowerment  |  No Comments  |  Share

3 Tips to Stop Triggered Behavior

Alright, ladies, May is here! We’re going to celebrate the unofficial start of summer with a series of posts aimed at sparkling vibrancy! We’re going to be clearing space, literally and figuratively, to make way for bigger and better things. I want to kick off the month by talking about one of the most common stumbling blocks to your radiance and well-being: reactive behavior.

Do you find yourself dialing a friend to vent at every twist and turn of your awful breakup, dreadful friend drama or frustrating work expectations? OK gals, I can remember going through my divorce and having diarrhea of the mouth about every foul thing my husband did – and you know what? It didn’t make me feel any better, as a matter of fact, I always felt worse. If this is sounding familiar?

I promise you; you’re not alone. Yes, I know only too well how feelings of resentment, disappointment, and depression can drive you crazy. Sitting with those feelings is hard but trust me when I tell you that complaining about how others are mistreating you will only keep you in a downward spiral and leave you feeling empty.

So, what’s a gal to do? Here are three great techniques to help you rise above your unconscious reactive behavior.

Rewrite the Story

When your peeps call and want the latest update on your cheating husband, the boss who’s been taking credit for your work, or the ex-best friend who just stabbed you in the back, instead of immediately spilling every messy detail of your situation, why not simply change the story?

Tell your friends and family that you are beginning to see the light, you are feeling pretty good about the situation, and you are expecting everything to resolve itself. Even if this is not true at the moment, continuing to say the words out loud will manifest goodwill for you and shift your feelings around the issue. Trust me, as soon as you share this new outlook, you’ll feel light and positive, and much, much happier.

Journal

This is your new best friend!! Every beautiful blank page is waiting with baited breath for you to pen your most private thoughts – without any judgment! So the next time you feel the urge to grab your cell phone and vent to the first friend who’ll pick up, grab your journal instead. In the time it takes to have a conversation you can dump your thoughts in stream of consciousness writing. This is fast and furious writing- no censoring, no judgment. Pure freedom of expression. When you are done, read it and go a step deeper. Ask yourself why you are so irritated and see what comes up. Then write about that!

Awareness is the first step to healing and will surely help you soar from the depths of despair.

Dynamic Breathing

Taking a yoga class would be ideal, but if you can’t get to one, Dynamic Breathing is the next best thing. And you can do it anywhere: car, office, home. Start by breathing in deeply through your nose – picturing white light entering your body. Then exhale through your mouth, picturing all negativity flowing out of you. Dynamic breathing is both a cleansing and centering exercise. You will feel immediate peace – able to see things with a brighter, clearer, more positive perspective.

Here is my promise: If you implement these techniques you’ll feel empowered and proud instead of empty, and I think we can both agree that’s a much better place to be!

May 5, 2018  |  Womens Empowerment  |  1 Comment  |  Share

How to let go of your painful past

Are you still haunted by your EX or maybe a partners affair? Here is the answer you have been looking for.

Spring inspires new beginnings, fresh starts and cleaning out the clutter ( that includes all those toxic no good thoughts!)….so how about letting go of past relationship problems that have been stealing your vibrancy and joy? Over the years, I have watched clients, friends and even strangers so paral\yzed by past painful memories they weren’t able to let LOVE in.…so I have a question for you?

Have you given the care of your heart to someone who is either no longer with you or doesn’t deserve that precious gift? Or maybe you are having trouble opening your heart again to a partner who violated your trust. Are you blaming yourself or him for the loss of love in your life?

If you answered yes, you are not alone. Many women are in the same boat. I too mistakenly placed responsibility for my happiness squarely on the shoulders of someone else in the past but thankfully I learned the tools to let go of the past and reclaim my heart – knowing I am in control of how I choose to feel!

Why is it important to make peace with past or troubled relationships? Simple. Now that the bond is broken,your ability to regroup and rebuild your self esteem will go much faster if you appreciate the good and the bad that your relationship brought to your life. Yes, even the BAD. That will allow you the freedom to start enjoying your life again.

If your Ex or partner behaved badly, or broke your heart you may not want to let go of the “he did me wrong” song and hey I know it hurts to be deceived and rejected but it hurts more to hang onto it. I bet you anything that you got so involved with him and his life that you have taken all the focus off your wonderful self. You are beautiful and amazing and deserve a love-filled life!It is time for YOU!

Here is a short Self Love quiz to check it out….CLICK HERE to take the quiz!

 

 

P.S. If you really long to make new friends and meet other like-minded women who, just like you, are dedicated to becoming their best most sparkling Self, then I invite you to check out my 2018 Soul Sparkle Retreat, July 19th-22nd – at the beautiful Italian-esque Westlake Village Inn.

This exclusive retreat is limited to just 10 women. I have 2 spots left, If you want to be one of them, email me today at Sherri@unleashyoursparkle.com.

April 28, 2018  |  Womens Empowerment  |  No Comments  |  Share

The Importance of Friends

Spring is a fantastic time to reconnect with your girlfriend! And I’m not talking about putting together a brunch where all you do is sit around complaining about the men in your life (or lack of) or indulging in gossip.

I’m talking about some serious, soul sister quality time where you drop down into your heart and engage in ways that inspire the release of that fabulous feel-good chemical oxytocin.

Sometimes referred to as “the love hormone,” oxytocin is released after sex, after childbirth and, when we spend time with our closest friends. It’s not surprising then that research points to longer, healthier lives for women with large social circles, while those who isolate themselves experience higher levels of stress hormones (which result in reduced well-being).

To make matters worse, isolation is a vicious cycle. If you’re already feeling lonely and depressed, you’re less likely to go out and engage with other people, which makes it that much harder to make new friends and widen your social circle.

Why Do We Lose Touch with Our Friends?
Sometimes it’s a matter of scheduling or geography. Sometimes we’re afraid of being rejected. You might think, “Oh, my friend has so much going on, I’ll just wait for her to contact me.” Then, when she doesn’t (because she’s not a mind-reader) you feel even more rejected, creating the exact scenario you were trying to avoid.

If you’re married, it’s possible that you’ve made your husband the center of your universe. But even in the closest of marriages, your husband will never fill the same space that your girlfriends do. Men are fixers. They won’t just sit there and chat with you about what’s happening.

Your girlfriends are going through the same challenges that you are—divorce, health issues, aging parents, problems with your kids, weight gain, hormones, all of it. So, prioritize your girlfriend time!

I have one group of friends that’s made it a point to get together on each of our birthdays for the last 40 years! If that’s too much of a commitment for your friend group, then plan one annual get together. It doesn’t have to be some huge trip so long as you make a point of creating something special together.

How to Reconnect If You’ve Let Those Friendships Fall Away
If you haven’t spoken to one of your friends in a while, a simple text to let her know that you miss her and would love to connect is a great way to open up the line of communication.

We often avoid reaching out because we think we’re going to need a marathon phone call to fill each other in on everything that’s been happening but that’s really not true. Five minutes is better than nothing, trust me. Let your friend know up front you only have a few minutes but wanted to connect and you’ll be amazed how uplifted, warm and yummy you’ll both feel with that short chat.

Ways to Build Your Social Circle
If you’re someone who has a hard time making friends or if you’ve lost touch with old friends and are trying to rebuild your social circle, here are some easy ways to get started:

Join a women’s business networking group
Find a women’s group at your church
Take a class at your local community center
Sign up for a weekend yoga retreat or workshop
If deeply connected friendship is important to you then make the commitment today to either reach out to one of your soul sisters OR spread your wings and do something different to meet a new friend.

Life is meant to be shared and enjoyed so don’t delay, connect NOW!!!

P.S. If you really long to make new friends and meet other like-minded women who, just like you, are dedicated to becoming their best most sparkling Self, then I invite you to check out my 2018 Soul Sparkle Retreat, July 19th-22nd – at the beautiful Italian-esque Westlake Village Inn.

This exclusive retreat is limited to just 10 women. I have 2 spots left, If you want to be one of them, email me today at Sherri@unleashyoursparkle.com.

April 21, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Connecting to Your Diamond Power

If you’ve been reading my blog recently, you know that I took an absolutely magical trip to Egypt last month. In my post, Lessons Learned in EgyptI described my experience in the King’s Chamber of the Great Pyramid. But I didn’t tell you everything. While inside that sacred space, I had a powerful vision.

After a restless start to the meditation, I reminded myself to focus on my breath and that began my journey inward and upward. Within minutes of deep focused breathing I found myself rising into a different state of consciousness and suddenly I saw a beautiful Ankh right in my heart center. Often referred to as “the key of life,” the Ankh is one of the most well-known symbols from Ancient Egypt. It looks like a cross but with a loop at the top. In fact, the Ankh is also known by the name “Crux Ansata,” which means “cross with a handle!”

Now remember, I was in that tomb in total darkness. This was an “inner vision” of this powerful symbol. It was both an experience of seeing and feeling it inside my heart. Then suddenly, as if things weren’t already blissful enough, the sweetest image of Jesus appeared to me, wearing a huge smile, with arms outstretched, radiating love and joy. Within a blink of the eye He transformed into the most beautiful stream of brilliant white light and flowed fully and wholly into that Ankh, into my heart, and I was at peace.

What a powerful message and experience – understanding how we connect to our Diamond Power! CLICK HERE to learn more about how to find peace by connecting with your Diamond Power!

April 6, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

What Is Standing Between You and Love?

Spring has arrived ushering in a period of vibrant, feminine energy. Mother Nature is showing her stuff with blooming trees, bright sunshine and warmer temperatures. Now is the time to throw open your windows, ditch your winter wear and reconnect with your divine feminine essence.

For some women, especially the strong, independent women among us, this is easier said than done. Don’t get me wrong, it’s great that you are able to take care of yourself but here’s the thing: you may be creating an invisible wall between yourself and the men you’re trying to attract, hindering your ability to create and maintain healthy, loving relationships.

Ay yi yi, is this what you want? I’m guessing, the answer to that question is no.

So, here’s what you need to do:

Ask yourself, “ Do I favor my “Doing” masculine energy?” If the answer is “yes,” you’re in good company. There are millions of women in the world today embracing masculine traits so they can be successful in business, run their households and get everything crossed off their endless daily task lists.

In many ways, this is necessary but while you may be succeeding in your career, you may also be destroying your intimate relationships. Here’s how:

  • You send the message: “You’re not needed.” Sometimes, our strength and capability communicates that a man is unnecessary. When a man gets that message, he may walk away or go where he feels needed. Why? Because men need to feel needed. It’s foundational to their sense of self-esteem.
  • You create competition. Masculine energy is competitive. Happy, bonded relationships exist when each partner encourages and supports the other not when you’re both vying for power.
  • You emasculate your man. If you “wear the pants,” then what do you think he’s wearing? When you operate more in your masculine energy, your partner has to use more of his feminine energy. Even the most sensitive man will begin to feel exhausted and depleted by this after a while. At that point, he will experience the urge to pull away or shut down.
  • You lose touch with yourself. When you allow your masculine side to dominate, you are robbing yourself of your radiance and disconnecting from your essential feminine essence. Connecting to your femininity is essential to nurturing your soul and developing your playful, sensual, authentic Self.
  • You become unattractive. Even if you are gorgeous, men will likely find you unattractive if you are living in your masculine energy. Why? Because real magnetic attraction has more to do with the way a person makes us feel than by how they look. A feminine woman knows how to make her man feel like a man and this ability draws him to her like a powerful magnetic force.

This doesn’t mean you have to ditch your masculine side and don your feminine 100% of the time – far from it. We all possess both and we all need both. The masculine energy drives us to be competitive, protective and solution-oriented. The feminine energy makes us collaborative, able to multi-task, intuitive, receptive, magnetic and flowing.

The goal is to balance the two, so that we’re engaging in a beautiful dance. One that is complementary, harmonious and enables us to achieve great success in all aspects of life, including love and relationships. You will also feel much happier and experience less struggle and exhaustion and way more ease. Who’s in for that?!!

In order to remove your blocks to love, you must understand the ways that masculine energy is creating them. When women are connected to their raw feminine power, they possess a sparkling brilliance.

Celebrate spring by returning to your divine feminine energy opening the doors to juicy, fulfilling relationships!

March 29, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

How to “Weather” stormy times

Last week I flew to the east coast for new training and planned to meet up with a dear friend afterwards for several days of fun in the Big Apple. We had planned this girlfriend getaway at the beginning of the year and I was so looking forward to hanging out and exploring Soho, the meatpacking district, new restaurants, yoga, shopping, FUN!

After one day we discovered another mammoth Nor’easter snowstorm was confirmed to be on its way. Dang! Big change of plans.

Has that ever happened to you? Maybe not with the weather, but some area of your life is about to get stormy? You plan; you have expectations and then, bam! You see or feel a big storm brewing that has the potential to put a kibosh on the way you want things to go.

It can be very disappointing, can’t it? Might even make you angry or sad or frustrated. A part of you might even go into full denial thinking it won’t be that bad. Sound familiar?

I have to admit, that was me. I started going into denial – and then something happened that helped me move through this situation with a new perspective, ease and grace.

Click here to discover how to “weather” stormy times

March 23, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

How to Master Inner Peace

Have you ever had a sudden insight that made things crystal clear?

The kind that inspires such knowing there’s no room for confusion, doubt or skepticism?

Loooove when that happens, don’t you? It’s like a cosmic kiss!

So a few days ago, I was thrown such a kiss! I had woken up feeling kinda funky and decided to take a walk in the park to shift my energy and mindset. And even though I was having my usual morning chat with God, rather than letting Spirit flow through me, I was mentally trying to force and control my shift with no luck.

Have you ever done that?

Frustrated I asked, “Ok God, help me see what I need to see, know what I need to know and feel what I need to feel” and literally within seconds I was given a great gift – a wonderful insight.

This gift of an insight beautifully dovetails with the lessons learned in Egypt I’ve been sharing with you over the last few weeks. Nature has always brought me powerful messages and this day was no different.

My eyes were guided to the tree’s surrounding the path in the park. Suddenly I saw them in a whole new light. My attention was drawn to the trunk- solid, sturdy and vertical – reaching up to the heavens, fed by the Light.

Instantly I understood the trunk to be symbolic of our inner core strength – what I call your Diamond Power ladies. We too have vertical access to this Light and when we connect with this Source, man oh man do we become sturdy in our core!

Now think about a tree’s branches – they are like our thoughts – some are strong and supportive but others are twisted and gnarled like our monkey mind thoughts that make us crazy. All we have to do is prune some of those branches back and we can do this by turning our gaze upward and connecting with Infinite Love/God and we will come back to center, our trunk, becoming strong and sturdy again at our core.

It’s amazing how simple things can be when we give ourselves permission to make our lives easy and peaceful isn’t it?

As I left the park I felt exhilarated – by letting go, opening, and allowing a power far greater than me have it’s way with me, I felt fantastic, full up and rock solid in seconds. Wow!

Here’s to getting out of your own way, opening to the Light, and anchoring into strong and sturdy!!

March 17, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  1 Comment  |  Share

2nd Lesson from Egypt

Last week we talked about the choice between staying connected to God’s peace within or indulging in the chaotic distractions of our outer world. I invited you to join me in a one-week challenge to become aware of your options and make a decision that serves your highest state of Being so you can maintain more joy in your life. How did you do?

I have to be honest and completely transparent about the last week for me – it was pretty up and down. My sister-in-law is in the hospital and I got completely riled up at the incompetency of the doctor who was treating her. Fortunately she was transferred to a different facility with higher quality care where she was diagnosed accurately and is receiving the meds she requires.

But until that happened it was a roller coaster of anger, fear and prayers. Boy did amnesia set in several times around staying in God’s peace!! Geeeez Louise!

I found myself getting extremely angry and emotional, blaming and judging the doctor. All stemming from my huge fear that his misdiagnosis and blunders might lead to losing my sister-in-law whom I love deeply – she’s been a big part of my life since I was 16.

Have you ever been in a situation like this? Where you feel helpless and you know your emotions are not contributing to a positive outcome but you are gripped by fear?

What do you do to turn a situation like this around?

Click here for a quick solution

March 10, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Lessons learned in Egypt

I just returned from an epic pilgrimage in Egypt – it fulfilled and exceeded a bucket list dream I’ve had since I was 7! So excited to share the wisdom gained from this powerful experience over the next weeks and months with you.

One insight I’d love to start off with occurred on the last day of the journey. It had been arranged for our group of 65 to have private access to The King’s Chamber in the Great Pyramid. So in the wee hours just before dawn, flashlights guiding our way, we climbed the narrow passageway to the sacred space. After 20 minutes we arrived – the room was large with high ceilings and felt more spacious than I imagined it would be.

We cozied up sitting against the walls and laying on the floor in anticipation of what was next. Our pilgrimage leader, Mary Morrissey, instructed us to turn off all flashlights and then in the pitch darkness of the apex of the pyramid (so surreal!) led us into a silent 30-minute meditation to connect with God.

As I became one with the vertical stream of God’s loving light. The message was powerful –

The secret to living a life of ease and True happiness is not only possible, it’s simple.

All one has to do is connect with God’s love and let that guide us. When we do this drama, despair, disappointment, confusion and all fears fade away… and life becomes easy and full of joy.

This is your Diamond Power ladies – confirmed!!

Next we were offered the opportunity to go down and sit in the power point pit of the pyramid. When I heard this I could not believe my ears – seriously??? Jumping out of my skin with excitement it felt like I was in an Indiana Jones adventure.

With flashlights in hand a few of us braved our way…we descended backwards through a steep, small dark tunnel, and ultimately crawled on hands and knee’s into the heart of the pyramid. I arrived first in my group and had the privileged opportunity to sit in this sacred space alone and feel the pulse of the pyramid. It was a peaceful loving energy I’ve never felt anywhere else. Pure love that vibrated to the edges of my body – soooooo incredible.

When we came out of the pyramid it was daylight and the chaos of Cairo surrounding the great monuments had begun. What a stark contrast – two totally different realities side-by-side, co-existing in the same city. And man oh man, the temptation to let my mind be pulled from the peace of the pyramid to the struggle of the city was great. What choice would win?

LESSON LEARNED

The awareness I had and want to share with you is that we are like the pyramids – we are these beautiful unique bodies and within us lay the sacred space of our hearts and minds (our diamond essence) – where we connect with the love of God (our Diamond Power) and enjoy peace and happiness. Surrounding us are the continual distractions, bright shiny objects and dramas that seduce us and beg for our attention. Often successfully luring us from our connection to inner loving peace.

Like everyone I can get easily seduced. What I realized even more keenly as I left the site of the pyramids, is that I had a choice. I could let myself get distracted or I could stay connected to the peace within and simply observe my surroundings without indulging in them. In that moment I chose the latter. Will I be perfect at this every time – absolutely not! And that’s ok. It’s something I will strive for though and allow myself compassion for my humanness.

I invite you to join me in this challenge – a challenge for inner peace. So as you move through your day and different scenarios pop up, will you let them pull you into a stressed out state or will you go within for a more empowering action? Join me in heightening our awareness; choosing to strengthen our muscle for peace, knowing that where we put our focus and attention largely determines our happiness.

Are you in? We can do this!!!

What choice will you make today?

March 3, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  5 Comments  |  Share