Let’s face it – the ups and downs and curveballs in life will test you on every level – emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually. To be totally transparent my life at one time was fraught with breakdown in every area – marriage, career, finances and friendships. It was a struggle to clear the clutter, focus and follow through to get to where I am now, positively impacting thousands of women. In all honesty, there were plenty of incredibly painful moments.
After my divorce when I began to rebuild and create a happy life I had to develop a new mindset. I have to admit, at first it was difficult for me to stop blaming others for my lot in life, forgive and forget, get honest and start taking responsibility for my part.
Initially turning my thoughts around seemed an impossible feat, like turning the Titanic around. But as time went by, I was able to stop the suffering, because I was tired of my thoughts taking me down the rabbit hole and I knew that having a happy life was the way out. And, I chose it, and got behind it energetically, with the help of my friends, mentors, healers and God.
I realized I needed mentorship, connection to the Divine, and some serious community support to be able to clear the cobwebs, keep focus and move forward with strength and grace.
And, I found it. I discovered the tools to shift the unhealthy thinking, fill my heart with love and take my power back and I’m totally in love with my life. But more importantly, I’m crazy for my clients and love teaching them what I’ve learned.
I want YOU to have the tools to take your power back so that your life is on fire with fun and emotional freedom – bigger than your fears.
Your fear is never going to go away. You just have to make your commitment to your happiness stronger.
If you know you’re always one foot in and one foot out and have a difficult time keeping your heart happy and your mind peaceful, click here to schedule a chat with me. I’ll give you a plan that works.
In the meantime, if you have a heavy heart, try this short exercise I use – it works wonders to take your power back.
• Sit or lie down and start breathing into your heart.
• Imagine all the people who have bruised, hurt or squashed your heart – lovers, family, friends, bosses, teachers etc.
• Start pulling the energy back that you’ve given away with the painful memories/thoughts. See it like a rope of golden energy, being pulled back to your heart, hand-over-hand pulling it in, bringing it home.
• See the golden energy flow into your heart and feel it become expansive with wisdom and reclaimed power.
• Wrap your heart with the gold energy and seal it.
Voila! You’ve just taken your power back in a matter of minutes. How do you feel? Notice the energy coming back in felt cleansed and purified – no pain! This is seriously good, yes?
Use this quick and easy tool every time you feel funky and you will be back to your brilliant self pronto!
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Sunday night a very wise speaker, Dr. Drew Sams, opened my eyes and mind with a powerful question. It had such an impact on me I want to share it with you.
What are you pouring your life into?
He began by holding up a bottle of Veuve Clicquot and talked about its value. Depending on the restaurant and time of year (New Year’s Eve being the coup d’ etat) it could range from $100 to $350 a bottle. He went on to say this champagne even holds a royal warrant from Queen Elizabeth 11. Impressive. No one in the room disagreed with him – it was acknowledged to be very valuable champagne.
Next he showed us a trashcan filled with coffee grounds, banana peels and used tissues. He then uncorked the bottle and started pouring it into the trash…getting the visual? Wow, just like that, the Veuve lost its value!
There’s something about a visual that really brings home the truth, isn’t there? You could hear a pin drop as the audience was quietly taking in the point – no matter how valuable you think you are or are perceived to be – the minute you start pouring yourself into garbage, you lose your value.
My mind immediately flew to all the things I have put my energy into both in the past and present that are a total waste of time, dilute my essence, and make me weary and downright ugly at times. Mama mia so many things!
What about you? What are you pouring your life into? Can you see where you might be engaging in behaviors that diminish your beautiful essence?
Click here to read the full article and discover a method to help you avoid these destructive behaviors.
Have you ever fooled yourself into believing you could “skip” a step or two and still get what you want?
Well I sure have. The 10K Mud Run I participated in last weekend is a great example. Since I’ve been working out with a group for the past 6 months – religiously following the schedule except for one small exercise – I thought I was in shape for this race.
It turned out I wasn’t as prepared as I thought…you see the one “small” exercise I consistently ditched was STRENGTH training and little did I know the Mud Run would have 15 obstacles (a la Private Benjamin LOL) including climbing a knotted 14 foot rope and ringing a bell – SERIOUSLY???
I couldn’t get past the first knot! In fact there were a couple of obstacles I didn’t complete because I didn’t have the upper body strength… and I quickly learned, all those work-outs I told myself I didn’t need (and avoided I might add) were KEY to my ease in getting through all the obstacles.
What I clearly got was I had been fooling myself! My coach put strength training in the mix for a reason – I had not followed her plan because I don’t like weight training – it’s HARD and BORING. So every time that exercise popped up on my workout schedule I massaged my ego with excuses that got me off the hook. But guess what? Doing it MY WAY made that race HARDER and I actually injured myself.
Not being adequately equipped for the Mud Run race made me weary and a bit disheartened humbly reminding me what I thought I was getting away with came back to bite me in the you know where LOL.
Did I ever learn a great lesson!!
Since then I have completely shifted my mindset around strength training because I now know it’s KEY in preparing me to handle challenges with more confidence and ease.
It’s only the willingness I’ve had to see what isn’t working and do the work to change it that has helped me create a life I love.
Why am I telling you this? Because this translates into every area of life and you are probably doing something similar and not getting the results you want. Ask yourself where you’re doing things your way and running up against the same problems again and again?
Avoiding something because it’s uncomfortable or hard or different or you just don’t want to do it will keep you stuck and suffering in a life that’s much more difficult than it’s meant to be.
One of my early mentors told me the only difference between successful people and people who do not achieve their dreams is that successful people do what other people don’t want to do. They are constantly challenging themselves to take it up another level with their mindset and skill set so they are prepared to navigate the curve balls of life with confidence and ease.
Question for you: where are you fooling yourself and skipping steps that will change the way you think and create new behaviors that will help you get what you want and lead a more fulfilling life?
Maybe you want a deeply loving relationship but freeze every time you want to express yourself – do you keep procrastinating getting the help you need to clear that block? Or maybe you bottle things up and when you can’t take it anymore explode hurting your kids, partner and friends – do you wave your behavior aside saying, “That’s just me” – putting off healing your anger and learning a different communication style? Or maybe you want a change in job or career – do you continue searching for jobs on the same sites, not open to trying a new resource?
Whatever it is you want in life, are you skipping steps that might seem hard now but will ultimately make your life easier?
The way you think is what got you where you are today (we’re not talking about the positive beliefs and ways of being, only the other stuff).
If you want a more fulfilling life here are 3 basic things you can do to get what you want with more ease:
- Be honest with yourself about the step you are skipping
- Change your mindset about the step you need to take
- Take action – do what you need to do and develop not only the mindset but the skill set that will allow you to go after what you want with confidence and high energy.
Practice these 3 steps and you will start living a sparkling life you love!
Hey! Just a quick reminder that tomorrow, Friday, at 5:30 pm PST I’ll be speaking about how to ‘Unleash Your Inner Sparkle to Create Confidence, Joy and Sensuality’ at the highly anticipated Dating With Dignity Summit 2.0: Everything You Need to Know to Date Successfully as a Smart, Strong, & Dignified Woman.
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During this FREE talk you’ll how something as simple as cleaning out your closet can bring incredible results that literally change your life.
You’ll also learn how to bring out your sparkle and show off your sexy, flirty, feminine side. As well as 5 easy makeover and shopping tips you can use to spice up your love life instantly!
“Unleash Your Inner Sparkle to Create Confidence, Joy and Sensuality” is only available at no cost to you for the next 24 hours, so listen now before it’s too late!
Enjoy, and let me know what you think!
PS – Marni Battista has enlisted more than 25 of the world’s top dating and relationship experts to share their best and most effective advice on men, sex, relationships, dating, body image, confidence and more! You don’t want to miss “Unleash Your Inner Sparkle to Create Confidence, Joy and Sensuality”