Everyone is committed to something.
But the BIG question is are you committed to a life that supports you or that sabotages you?
Here’s the deal…not many people would say they are committed to a life that sabotages them yet their desires and dreams always seem to be just out of reach.
Watch this video to discover 3 easy steps to
manifest your dreams and strengthen your commitments!
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Last weekend I hiked to the top of Skull Rock Ridge with a new hiking group (getting a jump start on Halloween LOL). A bit challenging with a 1,500 foot elevation gain in 2 miles but spectacular views of the Santa Monica Bay once sitting atop the skull.
I had a blast and it lead me to share this message with you.
We are now officially at the beginning of the last quarter of the year…I invite you to do a quick check-in. How happy are you and are you making time to live into a higher vision for your life?
In the beginning of the year I had a dream to be of greater service – in the video below I share how that played out, what I learned and what I was inspired to do.
I’m sharing this with you because I want this for YOU…to live a bigger life. And it is soooo possible for you!
Here are a few key questions that can help you find your next calling in life to have more fun and open your heart.
1) What lights you up?
2) Why is it important for you to engage in whatever lights you up?
3) How would you show up if you were doing what lights you up? How would you be different than you are currently?
Answer these questions and then book a time with me to go over this new vision and I’ll show you a plan to make it happen.
This will hold you accountable to do it so don’t miss the scheduling link if you want this plan to happen!
It’s your life and it’s worth playing into…I promise!
I’d be willing to bet many of you fabulous gals reading this are tired of suffering, tired of feeling stuck and just plain old sick and tired of living in the past and letting your ex monopolize your mind. If this speaks to you, this video is right up your alley!
In the video below you will learn how a new life IS possible! I share the 3 steps I used to let go of the past and get out of my rut. These are the same steps I give my private clients to create a successful sparkling life. They work for them, they’ll work for you:))
If you are sick and tired of suffering and want my help to let go of the past click here to book some time with me.
Are you asking yourself, how did it get to this point? Especially since the day you got married it seemed like you had the world at your feet! Weren’t you so full of hope and excitement for the future? Seriously how often have you seen an engaged couple head to the alter with anything less than enthusiasm, bubbling with expectation of their happily ever after?
So, what happens when the honeymoon phase is over?
After having countless conversations and coaching many people who find themselves in less than desirable circumstances in their marriages and/or partnerships – wondering how they got there ( at one time myself included) – I discovered this is a pretty common scenario.
The divorce rate in America is 40-50% for first timers and even higher for those giving it another go. So many couples unknowingly make mistakes that lead to the dissolution of love.
Are you making a relationship mistake that will lead to divorce?
Check out the top 5 mistakes that lead to divorce:
#1 Making the kids your #1
Have you fallen into the common pitfall of putting your kids before your marriage? Any parent knows how hard it becomes to keep the romance alive once kids come along. Mothers especially can become victim to placing priority on the children. This misguided precedence will take its toll on the marriage and can set the stage for separation.
It was through intimate love for your companion that created your family and that love needs to be fostered. One of the best ways to foster intimacy with your partner is to set regular date nights. This time away from your roles as mom and dad will allow you to reconnect with each other and connection is key to an enduring union.
#2 Focusing on the Negative
Negative thinking can easily snowball out of control. Once we start focusing on negative thoughts about our partner, it’s hard to stop them. Therefore, it’s wise to be mindful of the true importance of any transgression.
If your spouse is abusive or exhibiting other detrimental behaviors, calling it quits can be the best option. However, if you realize that your irritations are not deal breakers, try to release your negative thoughts. After all, no one is perfect. Both your mood and your marriage will benefit from positivity!
Try writing your partner a love letter or simply make a list of all the reasons you married your spouse. These simple affirmative acts, practiced often, will help your union to no only survive but to thrive.
#3 Expecting your partner to make you happy
If you aren’t truly happy with yourself, you won’t be happy in any relationship. While a fulfilling marriage can add a level of bliss to life, it shouldn’t be your only source of joy. It isn’t fair to expect your partner to deliver you value, happiness or a sense of self worth. These can’t be supplied externally. Happiness must start from within and only then can overflow to be shared with others including your spouse.
If you’ve lost sight of your own value or are having a hard time experiencing joy, working with a therapist or coach can help you rediscover your brilliant essence. Realizing and cultivating your own greatness will transform both your esteem and your marriage for the good.
#4 Respect for your spouse:
Respect is a cornerstone to a healthy marriage and creating mutual respect is vital to the longevity of your union. Teasing, eye-rolling, and public trash talking are all things that should be avoided at all costs.
Teasing is especially destructive to a marriage because cutting remarks can wound deeply. Even if said in jest, some comments just aren’t funny. Plenty of couples will tease each other in what starts as playful banter but can quickly degrade into hurtful jabs.
Make sure you communicate respect to your spouse at all times. Your partner will be more willing and able to lavish you with love and affection when they feel respected and this respect will help your marriage flourish.
#5 Choosing “me” instead of “we”
While it’s vital to practice self-care and nurture your own needs, be careful not to constantly choose “me” instead of “we”. Focusing solely on your own needs will cause you to abandon the needs of your relationship. Rather than living two separate lives inside of your marriage, ensure that you commit to activities that you enjoy doing as a couple. Connecting with each other regularly is imperative to creating a divorce-proof marriage.
While no marriage can ever truly be divorce-proof, avoiding these 5 common mistakes will keep your marriage healthy and increase the longevity of your love.
I get it – since April it seems like it’s been Mr. Toads Wild Ride – lots of health issues with my dad, rifts with my sisters, searching for a new home, de-cluttering and prepping for my move, my aunt passing, coming home from the funeral to find a beehive the size of a football field in the backyard, fever blisters up the ying-yang, the beautiful teacher I sponsored in Liberia dying a sad and untimely death at 33, business expansion – you name it, it’s happened LOL. But you know what? It’s really just life.
Sometimes it rains and sometimes it pours and sometimes it’s like a tsunami coming at you – very rarely is it just peaceful.
So how do you create that peace in the chaos? How do you follow your truth no matter what? Stay on track with your vision?
Read the full article here to find out how to stop stressing through life and start enjoying it!
Or ignored that calling in your heart that wants to come out to play?
Goodness knows I have at times in my life. It’s frustrating isn’t it? One minute you’re clear as day and the next caught up in a mire of distractions that cleverly keep you from living on purpose and in joy. I like to call these detractors Radiance Robbers. From emails to grocery shopping to people pleasing to external validation, these sweet talking bandits hi-jack your happiness.
And over time you start to feel pretty miserable because if you allow distractions and sabotaging behaviors to run your life you aren’t in integrity with who you are. You aren’t committed to YOU and when you can’t commit to yourself chances are others won’t feel compelled to commit to you either. Mama mia what a life we create when we abandon ourselves!
One of the ways I was living out of integrity was putting my soul calling to write a book on the back burner. I had a boatload of excuses as to why the timing was never right but just like a beach ball you struggle to keep under water, those inner tugs kept popping up… insistently.
Until one day I had the courage to say “YES” and immediately all the discomfort faded away and was replaced with an excitement that I was going to do what I was here to do. That changed the trajectory of my life for the better a million times over and it will do the same for YOU.
So how do you follow the truth in your heart no matter what? Whether it’s writing a book, running a marathon, changing jobs, getting married or getting divorced – if you want to be happy, living in integrity is not a choice. You know you are out of integrity with yourself when you feel like something’s “off” or missing or flat lined or worse.
The way back is to get honest with yourself and then take some key steps to start honoring your truth. Whether that means hiring a coach to help you write your book or overcome emotional blocks, setting up accountability with a friend to train for a race, talking to a divorce attorney to separate from someone who is emotionally or physically abusive – you have to take steps. Does it take guts and gumption? You bet – but boy does it feel good!
Here are 6 steps that will help you successfully loosen up the energy of stress and get on track with your truth.
- Vision – Create a visual of the end result – I did a mock up of the book. That looked like designing a cover, printing it out and wrapping it around a book. Voila! What can you create that is a symbol of your dream? Have fun with this!
- Why – what is your why? This is super important as it will carry you past your excuses
- Yack about it – tell your friends and family – it makes it more real. There is such power in verbalizing your dream – bringing a stronger level of commitment to it – this is also a way to close the back door.
- Take action! – Take an action step daily towards your dream – whether it’s research, talking about it, writing, hiring support, visualizing – every step takes you closer to actualization. And by the way, you don’t need to know all the steps – take it one at a time. I love that saying, “How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time”J).
- Accountability – set up a structure to hold yourself accountable. Harvard has done studies that show successful people put support systems in place to keep them on track. It’s human nature to slide – know thyself and set yourself up not only for success but to stay in integrity with your commitment.
- Date – choose a finish date. Setting this intention moves you forward faster. If you aren’t finished on time, don’t beat yourself up, simply create a new date and celebrate how far you have come! I moved my date out a few times and it didn’t take anything away from the sheer joy I felt when I held my book for the first time.
Part of what makes these steps easy to accomplish is having some fun in your life while you are making these hard transitions. Get your gal pals together for some girlfriend getaways, go dancing, listen to music, let go with laughter yoga, embrace your passions whatever they may be so that you clear your mind and stay connected to the truth that’s in your heart.
Did this make a difference for you? If so please leave a comment below – I love hearing from you:))
It’s about YOU.
I’m here to remind you to put yourself first.
You’re a conscious woman. You’ve gazed down the path to your dreams.
You KNOW, with that intuitive kind of knowing, that a powerful happiness and a deeper fulfillment is out there waiting for you.
So why do you feel stuck? Worn out? Tired of pushing and pulling and struggling?
there’s an easier way to live what your soul knows – right down to the soles of your feet.
It’s about letting go of the way we’ve been taught to value other’s happiness over our own.
It’s about allowing our power to rise up and receiving what we deserve. You CAN have the love, money, health, and energy you want and need to create a balanced and amazing life.
It’s about embracing who we are as women.
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Sometimes all it takes to get moving again is a little reminder:
Put yourself first. (And of course, a roomful of new friends can’t hurt.)
If you want something in your life…say you want to get married or divorced or move or maybe you want to switch jobs…do you shy away from opportunity when it presents because you don’t want to take the first step to get you to your goal?
I get it, just like you, I’ve been there …and that first step can be a doozy!!
Let me share a personal experience that speaks to this scenario.
At the beginning of the year I declared I wanted to be of higher service, reach more people, step up and out. I felt solid, bold and totally committed to this vision and declaration. Definitely excited, feeling it to the core of my being.
Within 2 months I was approached with the opportunity to be an international teacher/leader in a country that really needed support and assistance.
There it was, my golden chance – completely in alignment with my New Year’s declaration…and yet I hesitated. Why? As much as my body was screaming and expanding with an emphatic YES, my mind was racing with all the reasons why it probably wasn’t a good idea…at this time. Maybe later.
I looked for outs all over the place, but every time I prayed I got one consistent simple response – GO.. PRONTO!
Even with God sending me messages as big as a universal billboard I had excuses – not enough time to prepare, so many projects on my plate, fear of speaking on a stage for the first time, fear of leading a group of transformational rock stars (did I have what it takes?) and then there was the financial piece…blah, blah, blah.
Read the full article here to find out how I handled it, what it taught me about life and what you can do to get out of resistance!
Bombarded with anxiety and self-doubt on topics of vulnerability, intimacy and sex, many women find it difficult to trust themselves. This can be especially true in their relationships with men.
To feel empowered and experience confidence with men, women must first develop self-trust. It’s important to know your self and your deal-breakers.
In this video I join with other YourTango Experts Charles Orlando, Sheila Paxton and Barbara Schiffman as Melanie Gorman (Senior VP of Experts) asks us what advice we would give to women looking for love.
Want to learn more? Check out this video!
Often women will fall in love much more quickly than men and feel vulnerable. You don’t want to get overly invested without mutual reciprocity. Women are so loving and so giving that they can become overly invested in a relationship without making sure that the man is reciprocating.
In relationships, as in life, it’s important to trust your gut and go with your intuition. If you have the nagging feeling that something isn’t right, it’s important to ask questions for clarity.
If you find you are struggling with this, I want to support you. Use this link to schedule a complimentary 30 minute strategy session. You deserve to feel confident in life and in love!
It’s become an epidemic. Women losing themselves in relationship. Why?
Along those lines, I recently sent out a survey (many thanks to those of you who completed it!) and here is the #1 thing you all overwhelmingly said you wanted:
* A loving trusting relationship. Fantastic! But here’s the deal – in order to have a loving trusting relationship you need to FIRST have one with yourself!
Here’s the #1 challenge you shared:
*To find the right man…not surprising because you’ve got to BE the RIGHT woman to attract or recognize the right man.
What does that mean? Simply, that you love yourself, trust your decisions and choices and know yourself.
The truth is, staying connected to your gorgeous sparkle or “fun-ESS-ence” as my new SPARKLE 2 gals describe it, needs to become a daily habit.
Don’t lose yourself in love, watch this video.
P.S. - I have a few spots left in our SPARKLE 2 program. If you want my help finding your “fun-ESS-ence, and making your happiness this year a priority, book time now to speak with me.