Just 8% of People Achieve Their New Year’s Resolutions. Here’s How They Do It.

Did you know just 8% of people achieve their New Year’s resolutions?

Shocking, isn’t it?

That’s why I am dedicating this month to YOUR success! With the right steps and tools you can do it!! YES!!

Why are the right tools important? Because the research of Scranton University says despite our good intentions only a tiny fraction of us keep our resolutions.

I believe it – before learning how to set goals successfully I was in that 92% where goals fell by the wayside within the first month.

What about you? How are you doing with your New Year’s goals? Are you easily staying on track or are you finding distractions derailing you?

If you find yourself in the latter you’re not alone and you’ll love today’s tool to help you stay connected to your desire. (If you missed week 1 and 2’s steps you can go here to learn more)

Acting “As If” is the third step and key to creating a future that is outside your current reality. Imagine you are already the person living the life you vision. Feel it deeply in your soul. Live as though you already have what you desire. This moves molecules!!!

Why is this important for you?

Because, right now there is a gap between the woman you are being today and the woman who is living your dream. She behaves and thinks differently – so in order to close that gap you want to get in harmony with her and that means becoming her or living “as if”.

For example – say you are single, independent and used to being alone but you want a deeply loving relationship. There is a gap in the way you are living and the life you want. To close the gap you will need to switch out the identity of being alone with an identity of being in a relationship – you’ll need to act “as if” you’re already living the delicious future of your dreams. See it, feel it, taste it!

For example you could start shaking things up by imagining yourself with an wedding ring on your finger. Notice how it feels. How happy are you? Can you feel your partner’s hand in yours? What are your senses saying? Take this experience to the core of your being. When you go to the grocery store imagine you are shopping for two instead of one. Set the table for two, clear out space in your closet and bathroom, put space in your calendar for romantic vacations together.

In other words, ground it into your foundational make-up!

When you want to create a future that’s outside your current reality you have to consistently act “as if” you are already that person with the life you desire in a very solid way. Get outrageously detailed about the ways you will change your life to match the future you are committed to creating.

To manifest your desires and goals follow these 3 steps:

1) Determine new behavioral patterns to adopt to support your desires. What new actions and routines will you put in place? Will you join an activity club, take a new class, join a gym? Smile and make eye contact more?

2) Decide how you want to show up and present to others letting your most charismatic magnificent Self flow out to the world. Will you let go of being in your head and analyzing everything to allow your feminine flow to lead instead?

3) Choose how you will spend your time – are you willing to get out of busy mode and create more space for someone to be in your life? Will you spend time with loving couples who model what you want? Will you make time for fun?

Put these steps into practice and you will create the momentum to shift your life. Remember, as you are imagining, you are feeling deeply in your body. The most important thing to connect to is WHO YOU ARE BEING in this life. See your sparkling Self gracing the world, your vivacious essence unleashing, your sensuality soaring! You can do this! I believe in you!

January 16, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Top 3 Things That Block Your Dreams

Last week we talked about setting yourself up for success in 2018 with a 5-step process. I gave you the first step, clarity of your dream, and the components to craft a great vision. Have you done that yet? 

Let’s assume you have. Ok then! You’ve got a dream, a goal, ambition and you’re ready to take the world by storm. Woo hoo!

But, wait, why are there so many darn potholes on the road to your desires?

Anyone who’s dared to dream knows that the initial excitement will eventually be met with some form of obstacle or resistance. So, how do you move past these roadblocks on the path to yourbright future?

The first step is to recognize that a roadblock is not a dead end.

When a challenge arises, it’s important to stay connected to your “why” and not to give up. Why do you want this particular thing? As long as you keep this in the forefront of your mind you can recenter, refocus and recommit.

After all, a detour on the way to work wouldn’t keep you from getting to your end destination. So why would you let a detour on the path to your dream keep you from reaching your aspirations?

Click here to learn more about the 3 most common obstacles people encounter on the way to their dream and how to recognize these culprits and move past them.

January 9, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

3 Steps to Your Best Year Yet!

Yay it’s a brand new year! Fresh start. Big possibilities. Let’s dream!!

Do you have a clear vision of 2018?

Could you describe it in detail right now or is it a bit fuzzy?

This month we’re going to be focusing on your most sparkling blueprint for the coming year – that means you’ll get a weekly article in the Sparkle community AND you’ll have the opportunity to be on a weekly call I’m hosting to help you soar into 2018!!!

If you are like most people, you see bits and pieces of what you want to happen or you might be afraid to dream for fear of being disappointed, so it’s still a blank canvas.

Regardless, know that you can have the love-filled, exciting, happy life you desire. All you have to do is get very specific about what you want and stay connected to that vision every day and voila you are making welcome the life you would love.

So, let’s get you crystal clear!!

It IS possible to have the WHOLE enchilada.

Here are 3 key steps to clarity:

#1 – Ask yourself, “What do I really want? What would I love? What would my life look like if I were living as my most magnificent Self? What would life look like if I were living totally empowered?”

Would you have a deeply connected, loving and passionate relationship? How about letting that sensual, vibrant, healthy body come out to play? What about an exciting career that’s not only fulfilling but catapults you out of bed every morning with unbridled enthusiasm for the day? Is your bank account big and fat allowing you to travel to those bucket list places and have that magnificent Mediterranean home overlooking the ocean?

#2 – Give yourself permission to envision every area of your life as a 10. What would that look like? The sky’s the limit! Think of every aspect of your life. Remember you can have it ALL – as far and wide and tehnicolored as your imagination can fathom.

#3 – Determine what you want, write it down (research shows you 10x manifestation by getting your thoughts out of your head and onto paper :)). Write it in first person present tense to direct the energy to the present moment. That’s how we close the gap from where we are to where we want to be. Be as detailed as possible. The law of specificity is one of the 3 most important invisible laws of success. The more specific you are the easier it will be to bring forth your vision.

How do you feel right now? Thrilled? Expansive? Excited? Inspired? Hopeful? Doubtful? Take some deep relaxing breaths and let yourself percolate. Let it sink in that you have control over the course of your life.

If you have felt like a buoy in the ocean bobbing about at the mercy of the waves, you now know you can anchor yourself with a clear vision of your choice (if some parts of the vision are still fuzzy, no worries. Let it come together organically as you lean into it and TRUST it will come togeherJ)

So give yourself permission to dream…BIG! This is going to be your BEST YEAR EVVVVER!!!!

January 4, 2018  |  Uncategorized  |  1 Comment  |  Share

3 Reflection Questions to Set You Up for a Fantastic 2018!

Wow, are we really in the “nth” hour of 2017? Can you believe it??

You may have had a really tough year and are looking forward to saying sayyyy-onnnn-ara!!!. That’s probably true for many people. On the other hand, there is no doubt you’ve had some real gem moments that may need to be mined from the last year.

Whether you’ve had high times or low times, there is some great wisdom to be had in all of it… if you know how to look for it.

Something I like to do at the end of the year is a “real” reflection because if you are anything like me, there is a tendency to focus on what didn’t get done. Right? Mama mia that can take you right down the rabbit hole!

So today I’m sharing this year end tradition with you; it’s perfect to do right now before you get caught up in all the holiday glitz and blitz.

This tradition I started several years ago is not only easy and fun, it helps you see all the good things that happened; clear the chaos and clutter to GET the lesson, and sets you up for a spectacular and exciting New Year.

What I’m talking about involves 3 simple questions.

Click here for the questions that will catapult you into a happy and successful 2018.

December 21, 2017  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

How to Get More Love this Holiday Season

In my last post, I wrote about how choosing to give – whether it’s a physical gift, or simply the gift of your smile, time or attention – can powerfully raise your vibration.

It can be tough to live in a “feel good state” during the holidays, when so many people are actually feeling sad, downtrodden, perhaps lonely or just uninspired. Are you challenged to feel happy with where you are at this time of year?

Today, I’d like to share an exercise with you that will certainly lift your spirits and help shift you into a “I welcome more love into my life” kinda space this holiday season.

Give Back to Others through Gratitude

It’s the end of the year. As 2017 winds down, we’re encouraged to reflect on the last 12 months and consider how our lives are different. Has your life changed in a positive way? Are you happy with where your life is at right now?

I also love to reflect on the people in my life: who has impacted me? Who has been generous and kind with me, and made a difference in my life?

A couple weeks ago I was given an assignment by my mentor to write a thank-you note to somebody who has touched my life. I took on the assignment whole-heartedly, and wrote a letter to an old friend who, back in 1999, said something that changed my life forever.

“Let’s start a business together, Sherri!” were her exact words.

And we did! That simple phrase, and the actions we took after, started me down a life-changing path that has not only taught me so much about myself, but brought me endless joy and fulfillment. I wrote her a thank-you note and mailed it to her. Then I forgot about it.

About a week later I received a phone call from her. She told me what a difference my note had made in HER life that day and how grateful she was to hear from me. What a wonderful gift she gave me in calling me, and we were able to reminisce and celebrate our appreciation of each other!

Click here to discover what my client did to revive her marriage…

December 13, 2017  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

How to Add More Love to Your Holiday Season

We’re supposed to believe that the holiday season is the “most wonderful time of the year,” but for many people, November and December can be the hardest time of year.

If you’ve been feeling down, lonely, depressed or generally just “blah” this month, you’re not alone! And if you’re going through tough times, I’ve got the perfect remedy for you.

This holiday season, you can say sayonara to sadness and raise your vibration and your spirits by focusing on this one thing. Whatever is going on in your life, I know that it can be a loving and peaceful season if you include this into your day. 

The perfect remedy for beating the holiday blues? Giving back.

Raise Your Vibration by Giving Back

Ever noticed how warm and fuzzy you feel inside after doing a good deed? That’s the vibration of love at work, and it feels ah-mazing!

One of my clients, Vanessa*, was recently struggling to get along with her sister. To her, it seemed like every time they got together, her sister would make a snide comment or try to make her feel bad.

I guided Vanessa to shift the energy away from frustration and toward love. “Whenever you feel triggered,” I told her, “take a deep breath and bless your sister silently. When you do this it takes the personal sting away and puts you in a compassionate space. This energy shift will help you see a difference in your dynamic.”

She tried it, and told me a few days later that it worked beautifully!

Subtle shifts can be tremendously impactful. We think that if we don’t say anything about how we feel, nobody knows – but our energy extends far beyond our bodies. When we feel angry, hurt or annoyed, it flows out.

In the same way, when we feel grateful, loving and generous, it radiates into our energetic field.

This doesn’t mean that giving is always easy. It wasn’t exactly a walk in the park for Vanessa to hear her sister’s nasty comments and then respond by silently blessing her! But true love asks that you give back… even when it’s difficult. It’s choosing to walk the path of compassion rather than the path of ego, and recognizing the other person for the beautiful, shining spirit that they are, underneath the personalities, fears and shortcomings.

Wouldn’t you want others to do the same for you?

Giving is an Act of Love

In my book, I say that “love” has 4 letters: G-I-V-E. Giving from your heart is the best investment you can make in yourself, your life, your relationships and the people around you.

The beautiful thing about giving is that there are infinite ways to give; you can offer a blessing (like the client in the example I cited above), you can volunteer, you can offer your time, money, or just simply offer a smile to someone passing by.

You’ll always get back way more than you’ve extended to others; giving is truly the best “feel good” investment.

My challenge for you this week is to focus on giving for seven days. When you wake up in the morning, ask yourself:

Who can I give to today?

How can I be a person of increase?

Where would my energy and gifts make the most impact today?

You can also ask God or the Universe, “Please show me where I can give today.”

This holiday season, raise your vibration and your spirits by focusing on giving back. Wherever you are on your path, I know that it can be a loving and peaceful season if you’re willing to open your heart and give generously of yourself.

December 6, 2017  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

#1 Secret to Avoiding Fear Forever

There is love…and there is fear. That’s it – those are the only two emotions. You may call it something different like sadness, loneliness, or depression but if you look closer those love bandits fall under fear.

If you want to live with gusto you’ll need to be consciously and consistently kicking fear to the side. That’s the way you will reclaim your power to live out your heartfelt dreams and desires. And the truth is, You Can Do This!

You might be asking, how?

It’s about embracing life – living from your heart instead of your head and loving more! It’s about expressing your beautiful unique essence to the world – sharing your smiles, offering kindness and compassion to everyone, from the homeless to your loved ones, with a cheerful “not-attached-to–the-outcome” heart.

So how do we get there?

Click here to learn an easy way to avoid fear.

November 29, 2017  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

The Most Powerful Secret to Forgiveness

In my last post, I wrote about how forgiveness can profoundly affect your life: when you release the hardened energy – resentment, defensiveness and anger – around your heart, it actually creates space for love and generosity to enter the picture.

So what does gratitude have to do with all this?

Well, forgiveness doesn’t always happen overnight. In fact, sometimes it can take years of emotional work, sifting through the layers of the hurt, until we’re truly able to release old, hardened emotions. Little by little we get to a peaceful place.

However, there is a tool you can use to close the gap quicker – one I’ve found to be very successful with clients and would like to give you.

Are you ready? I think you’ll love how simple it is and quick! It’s the practice of gratitude. The big question that can really move things forward if answered honestly is this: What can you be grateful for about this person who has caused so much pain?

Gratitude for Our Sacred Friends

The Dalai Lama has a wonderful quote about what he calls “sacred friends.” These are the people who come into your life and push you to grow – and often, it’s a very painful process. Here is what he says:

“Everyone has friends; we all have friends. Friends easy love, easy forgive. But we have our sacred friends. Sacred friends very, very difficult. Chinese government, my sacred friend. Not Chinese people, Chinese government. Chinese people don’t do this; this is Chinese government that does this. The Chinese government is my sacred friend because without the Chinese government doing what they’ve done, I would never have had to evolve my heart to be bigger than the pain they bring.”

What can you be grateful for with regards to the person you need to forgive? What did he or she teach you? How did you grow, what monumental shifts did you experience as a result of that challenge?

Here’s an example. I divorced my ex-husband when I discovered years ago that he was cheating on me with another woman. It was an extremely painful experience, and yet, if I hadn’t gone through that, I wouldn’t be doing the work I’m doing now. Helping women get to the other side of their profound pain – transforming it into peace and finding joy again is my passion and purpose.

Without experiencing the pain of my ex-husband’s actions and the subsequent ending of my marriage, I wouldn’t have realized my purpose.

Let Go and Let Gratitude

Energy cannot flow when you hold on to something tightly, and that includes harsh feelings that prevent forgiveness. When you release those feelings, energy can flow! Love can come in! Gratitude will flood your body!

This week, I challenge you to take on gratitude and forgiveness in a new way: is there someone out there who needs your forgiveness?

I challenge you to reach out to that person, either by writing a letter, calling them, or communicating with them through the ethers. Make the choice to let go of whatever they did or didn’t do and allow the gratitude to flow. A key piece of this will be deeply tuning into whatever it is about them that you can appreciate, whether it was a tough lesson they taught you, or even this process of learning to forgive.

If you’d like help tapping into your gratitude and forgiveness, it would be my honor. Schedule a private session with me today by clicking HERE.

November 15, 2017  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

How to Release the Past and Find Forgiveness

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”

-Lewis B. Smedes

Last month on the blog we took a deep dive into the important and life-changing principles of self-love (read more HERE). This month we’ll take on another concept: forgiveness.

The truth is that forgiveness goes hand-in-hand with self-love; you cannot truly forgive yourself and others if you don’t feel, deeply and truly, that you deserve the freedom that comes with forgiveness.

Embrace Forgiveness and Release the Past

For many people, there’s a need to release the past and let go of things that have happened (or not happened) so they can have gratitude for what’s going on right now, in the present moment.

I understand it’s not always easy. I personally just released a huge piece of pent-up resentment and hurt around my dad that had been wallowing somewhere inside me for years. It was tough. And over the years, at times I had truly believed that I’d released it only to find that it was still there. Fortunately, this time I was able to let it go.

CLICK HERE to find out more of how to “let it go” and find forgiveness.

 

November 9, 2017  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share

Renewing your Relationship with your Body

When you think about it, life is about relationships. Every minute of every day you are relating with someone or something—be it your kids, boss, co-workers, friends, family, store clerk, stranger, pet, computer, car, Self, the list is endless.

And the most important relationship of all? You guessed it—your relationship with yourself.

Last week I gave you 6 ways to develop more self loveAnother important component of self-love has to do with your relationship with your body. So at this given moment, if you are honest with yourself, can you say you love your body fully, wholly, and unconditionally?

If you do that is awesome! But if you don’t that’s a message that there is some healing needed in order to shift that “not so nice” perspective. Because you know what? That attitude is not doing you a lick of good in living your best life, in achieving your goals and in how you are presenting to others.

I understand the muffin top horror and the emotions involved. It brings back memories of a time I was 40 pounds heavier, how I felt about myself and the new mental and physical behaviors I adopted to not only release the weight but keep it off for over 30 years. I understand body image is a biggie! One of the most important things I learned is that In order to live, laugh and love with freedom, you need to feel really good about your body image.

And I get it, after 40 the body starts to do a slip-slope, doesn’t it? Ay yi yi and how! I remember thinking it would never happen to me—boy, was I wrong! After going through an early menopause, things shifted, dropped, pouched, and spread seemingly overnight—that’s life though isn’t it? Always changing. So why not create a constant for yourself by appreciating and loving your body no matter what? That is something you do have control over – your thoughts!

Alright then, what kind of relationship have you got with your body? Do you adore and respect every luscious curve? Are you appreciative of all it does for you? Do you pay attention to what it needs—eating nutritiously and exercising so you’re at your optimal health?

Here are a few tips to help you love your beautiful body—even before you start working to release a few pounds, tone, or reshape it:

  1. Look in the mirror and really get that you are a creation of perfection.
  2. Make a list of at least five things you like about your body. Carry it with you if you need a reminder close at hand.
  3. See yourself at your desired weight. Notice the way you walk and talk. Notice what you are wearing, your style.
  4. Make sure to choose exercises that you enjoy so you’ll be more likely to include them in your life on a consistent basis.
  5. Make healthy food choices.
  6. Fill your mind with nourishing thoughts that fill you up.
  7. Have gratitude for your body and all it does for you – arms to hug with, legs to carry you forward, hands to hold and care for others with.

It’s important to honor and accept yourself, love your body as the goddess temple it is. Embrace a new theme in regards to body image and look at exercise as a way to stay fit and strong not only to look good but for internal health as well. This is your new 24-Carat Body Beautiful strategy—the key being, it has to be fun and realistic. You can do it!!!

October 25, 2017  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments  |  Share